Post # 1
Can you believe we’re down to four months already! Crazyness…
So, how are thing going for you guys? I know it helped to calm my nerves… and get my butt in gear the last time we all compared what we had done so far (In the 6 month post).
What’s the most stressful thing for you right now? Anyone having those dreaded wedding nightmares? (I am…)
I’m off to work on invites all day!
Post # 3
You just gave me a mild heart attack – 4 months makes me stress. It’s a happy stress though. I guess 3 months is worse but still. I can’t wait to actually get married but I have so much to do!
- We have everything booked.
- I have my first dress fitting next weekend.
- I have the invites, table numbers, programs, and table signs designed but not printed or assembled.
- 3 out of 5 BMs have their dresses ordered.
- Picked flower girl dress, waiting to see it.
- We have the groomsmens ties and BMs presents.
- Finished the BM jewelry yesterday! Whoo hoo!
- I made my hair flower last weekend.
- Ceremony songs are choosen.
- Ceremony is written.
- Ceremony accessories are all bought and ready.
- Groom is fully outfitted minus a shirt.
- T-shirt favors are designed and currently being printed.
- Rehersal dinner is set. Invite is designed but not printed.
We still need to pick our menus and go through the reception area with the DOC. I need to buy presents for the parents and shower hostesses. I have to make a "Must Shoot" list for the photog and schedule her. We need to buy songs for the ipod… like 100+ songs! I keep checking my Martha "checklist" and it just freaks me out. 60 tasks out of 140 something is rediculous! One task at a time… I think the most stressful thing now is the stuff I can’t control – like, is it going to rain?! That’s my fear…
What bad dreams have you had?!
Post # 4
I didn’t mean to give you a heart-attack, but I feel that way too so know you’re not the only one freaking out…
You’re list seems pretty similar to mine… except nothing is done about the groomsmen or groom’s attire and it’s stressing me out! The girls are wearing truffle dresses, and I’ve had an image of the guys wearing dark khaki pants and white button ups but now I’m not sure!
Rain is defiantly my biggest fear too! I just try to not think about it.
I have dreams about the wedding being tomorrow and I have nothing done (the same amount that I have now). Sometimes people didn’t even get their invites!
Post # 5
Well, I’ve sent save the dates, booked a venue, and bought a dress. And thats it. I’m freaking that no other vendors are booked but my wedding coordinator doesn’t seem to be because she isn’t emailing me back… I’m not crazy or a Bridezilla, right? 4 months is not too far away to book photographers and caterers?
Post # 6
@aloweha – Umm, no it’s definatly not to early. Although maybe the island nature of your wedding coordinator is supposed to be rubbing off on you:)? I’d be concerned as well. Is there anything you can do on your own and just TELL her you booked things? People book weddings in a less than 4 months all the time so maybe she has an overall timeline she normally works with. I’d bug her!
Post # 7
Gosh! I know! I can’t believe I’m a couple days shy of FOUR months!! So much to do!!
Tee, I am SO jealous that your ceremony is done! We have looked at ours, sort of have a clue, but we have no lesson and just a song chosen (I think). I would LOVE to have our programs designed already!!
Currently, I am mostly stressing out about my FI and his groomsmen’s attire. I am also stressing out about the cost of my wedding attire. And I’ve also decided to make my own veil because none of the blusher veils I’ve found I DID NOT LIKE!!
I’m planning to cross off A LOT of things on my list this month! I can’t slack off anymore! The past two months just flew by!!
Post # 8
Let’s see – our day is October 3.
We’ve booked all our vendors and signed contracts/placed deposits for Caterer, Venue, Flowers, DJ equipment, ceremony musician, ceremony location. I ordered my dress and received it (fitting in July), all my girls and flower girl have their dresses, I have all my accessories, I am almost done with my girls’ gifs and the kids bags, finished bathroom baskets, card box, and centerpieces. My FI designed all of our save the dates and invitations, they have been printed and tonight he designed the map to go with them. I published our wedding website. We reserved a hotel block. We’ve picked out all florals, menus, cakes, etc. There’s not much left to do but send invitations, do the dress fitting, get my FI’s tux and men’s tuxes picked out, make programs, and a few other DIY things (aisle runner, anyone?), and favors – which my FMIL is making homemade truffles for. Deciding whether or not to do a candy bar. I can’t wait!
Post # 9
@aloweha – It’s defiantly not too early for those things! I hope you can get ahold of your coordinator soon!
@leenmachine – I agree, the past two months just flew by! And I feel like I accomplished nothing new!
- Booked ceremony/reception site
- Booked DJ
- Booked Photographer
- Half of pre-martial consoling done (my pastor requires it)
- Wedding website made
- Finalized Menu
- Ordered cake
- Decided on Favors
- Have my dress/shoes/jewelry
- Have bridesmaid dresses/shoes
- Designed invites
- Designed/sent out save the dates
- Set dates for bridal showers
- Started music list
- Started photo list
- Print and assemble invites
- Dress alterations
- All the guy’s attire
- Design and print programs
- Ceremony things… songs, readings, etc
- Make favor bags
- Make table layout for tent
- Order bubbles
- Order gifts for wedding party, parents, etc
- Find someone to do my hair day of
- Find MOB dress
- Order flower-girl dresses
- Make ring-bearer pillow
- Get fabric and sew tablecloths
- Buy a million other little thing that we need that I can’t think of
There’s a lot of things that can’t be done until close to the time too. Like my family is doing the food, and my MOH and I are doing all the flowers (really nothing big though), and all the set up at the site… Plus there’s a million DIY things I want to do that aren’t on here.
Uhh, I really need to make a for real list.
Post # 10
@ j_nicolle: I know it sounds like a lot but I made a list on the Martha Stewart site and it totally helps. She gives you a timeline and the basics and then I added all my own projects and deadlines. It’s so comforting checking things off. Plus, she has things you may not think about like Day Before tasks and After the Wedding tasks. I gave up on my excel timeline since it just stopped being realistic…
@leenmachine: For our ceremony, our officiant had a few sample ceremonies on his site and I cut and pasted… then added my own stuff and voila’! I sent it to him to peruse and he liked the cut and pasted version! Haha. We went over the list of ceremony music and becuase we wanted it upbeat and modern my girls are walking down to "Can’t Help Falling in Love" and we’re leaving to the Beatles "All you need is love!" by our string duo. They were easy decisions for us. I’m walking to the token Canon in D… so I feel "bridal" or whatever
Post # 11
Omg. Only four months
Wow. I mean, this has went by really fast. Like so fast that I need more TIME. Ah.
So far, I have my dress ordered! It is being handmade for me, will get it in September. I’m placing the order for my veil this week.
I hired a wedding planner who has everything under control! Already had an example "room setting" done by a florist who I am hiring. I’m actually using him for everything that I need, all the rentals, etc.
We hired the band. Hired the photographer and videographer.
We have our invitation person working on invites, so that’s done. Oh, our baker has the date reserved, and we’re still working on the design.
I haven’t done anything regarding the menu yet, but we’re reserved … haven’t done anything about my sisters MOH dress … no bridesmaids, I have to get my ring bearers outfit, my mom still doesn’t have a dress, my dad has to order a tux and so does fiance.
- So far I haven’t designed our catholic ceremony yet, so I have to do that.
- Haven’t figured out favors.
- Haven’t ordered shoes
- Haven’t figured out hair and makeup situation
- Haven’t designed our cocktail hour – which is not in the same area as reception
- Ordering my veil this week
- Dragging my mom and sister to pick our their dresses this week
- Still have to hire the cultural band … who takes turn with our American band
- Figure out entertainment or music, whatever for cocktail hour
- Go on DIET AND BEGIN WORKING OUT TO TONE ……. ahhh I haven’t started yet!!!!!!!!!!
- Finish designing our invites
- Get ring bearers outfit and figure out pillow situation
I have to say that I’m carrying no stress regarding my wedding at all. It is because I hired an amazing wedding planner that I pay to carry it for me. She has it all covered. I’m just obsessively looking at weddings and stalking wedding websites for all the wonderful details I would never think of!!!!
Post # 12
I hope I can get in touch with her too. But it’s looking unlikely. I would like to just book things myself but the reason I hired a coordinator is because I don’t know anything about or anyone on Maui and needed a resource. Also, they only work with ‘approved vendors’ so even if I found someone and booked myself it would cause a thousand headaches on the wedding day because the coordinators won’t take care of the other vendors stuff. (i.e. won’t make sure the catering is all set, photographer is there etc etc.
I feel like I am the only one who gives a crap if this wedding takes place, or if anyone eats at it. Everyone around me keeps saying "don’t worry, don’t worry" Uh, if I don’t worry about it, it seems like no one else will. Weddings don’t just magically happen people… you have to organize them.
Post # 13
Wow everyone sounds like they are well on their way to having some fabulous weddings! I pretty much had everything done about two months after we got engaged which was four months ago. I have pretty much bought everything except my wedding shoes, memorial candle for FI little brother, wedding favors, wedding jewelry and still searching for the grooms ties!!!
MY BIGGEST NIGHTMARE IS IF IT SNOWS!!!!! WE ARE GETTING MARRIED IN THE AWESOME PAVILLON AND MY FLORIST IS COMPLETELY MAKING IT OVER, LIKE $3,000 MAKING IT OVER. THE PAVILLION IS COVERED AND HAS WINDOWS BUT THE PROBLEM IS THE WALK TO THE PAVILLION IS OUTSIDE AND A PRETTY FAR WALK SO IF IT SNOWS IT LOOKS LIKE WE WILL BE DOING THE WEDDING IN THE BALLROOM WHICH I DISLIKE. OH YA AND THE $3,000 MAKEOVER WILL BE USELESS AND CAN’T BE USED IF WE DO IT IN THE BALLROOM. 🙁
OH YA AND MY PARENTS AND SOME FAMILY WILL BE DRIVING FROM HOUSTON TO DENVER (WHERE THE WEDDING IS) AND HOPEFULLY IT DOESN’T SNOW BECAUSE THEY DON”T HAVE 4 WHEEL DRIVE.
Post # 14
@ MsHymanRoth – I am so glad I’m not the only one that hasn’t figured out hair and makeup yet. I did send some emails tonight though! And good for you that you have no stress!
@aloweha – Hugs, girl! I’m so sorry it’s working out like that for you! You have every right to feel like someone other than you cares about your wedding! Is there maybe someone higher up in the chain of command that you can contact. Are they though a resort or just one their own? Is it to late to fire them and find someone else maybe?
@tee – I actually started that Martha checklist today . It is helpful. Thanks for the tip though!
Our DJ is doing our ceremony music too… which makes me nervous to a point. But the ceremony and reception is basically in the same place and he would already have the speakers and everything. Sounded like a good idea at the time… Is there anyplace that lists suggestions for walking in/out music or do people just come up with thing by themselves???
Post # 15
I’ve only been planning since March, so I don’t have as much done as the rest of you, but I’m still more excited than stressed! So far, we’ve
- Booked ceremony & reception sites, florist, photographer, "baker", & contacted a DJ
- Finished the guest list (God, what a task!! and technically, we’re still not done)
- Made website
- Made & mailed save the dates
- Got bridesmaids’ dresses
- Almost completed the registeries
- Almost finished the invitations
- Booked a wedding night hotel
- Got a dress, which is being hemmed as I type
- Picked shoes
- Finalized ideas for decoration
We still have LOTS to do! Most of my time was spent making a timeline to-do list (a la Mrs. Daffodil) We’ve got to:
- Collect all our materials for centerpieces (and make them!)
- Plan our ceremony
- Pick out all the music
- Gather photos for reception & favors
- Make our favors
- Finalize our menu
- Decide on flowers w/florist
- Book a rehearsal dinner
- Make ring pillow & flower basket
- Address & mail invites
- Find & purchase gifts for the wedding party
- Get our rings
- Figure out hair & make-up
- Meet with the photographer & DJ
- Make our programs
- Figure out how to change my name
Wow, that doesn’t seem like too much to get done – or maybe it’s my timeline that makes me feel better. I don’t like the ones from the Knot or Martha, because they make me so stressed that I’m not matching up to their timelines. Making my own let me prioritize & put things where I want them & have a nice visual to see what’s coming down the pike.
I can’t wait!!
Post # 16
Wow – now that is a timeline!
Did you make that in powerpoint! That seems way advanced! Good for you though, being so organized.