Post # 1
We did not do save the dates, and our invitations are almost ready. I am ready to finish them and get them sent off, but my future mother in law says it is too early to send them out. I have a RSVP date of Sept 1st. is that too soon? Should I change the RSVP date? Most of our relatives live in the same town as us, or a couple of hours away. We only have a select few (unfortunately two of the most important people, my father and grandmother) that live out of state- at most maybe 4 or 5 invites are going out of state. What should I do?! I am almost totally at my witts end. AND WE STILL NEED TO FIND A CATERER!! AHHH!
Post # 3
I am going to send mine out next week and have the rsvp just a few days after yours. I think it’s a good idea because you need to anticipate the rsvps being late!
Post # 4
I sent mine out Aug 1 & already have 27 yes’s. Def. not too early. My RSVP date is Sep 17th.
We also did not send out save the dates!
Post # 5
i sent mine out July 8. /end sheepish
We’ve had 5 no’s and 24 yes’ and I haven’t checked the mail yet today. Our RSVP date is even later – Sept 15.
Post # 6
I did do a save the dat but like 3/4 of our guests will need to travel 2 hours or more.
But I am sending mine out Aug. 20th with ( I thin) Sept 22 as the return my date,
do you all think I should move my return by date up? I thought a month to track people down would be enough…
Post # 7
I won’t be sending mine out until this weekend (about 8 weeks out) with rsvp date Oct. 1st. However, I did send out save the dates.
I don’t think sending the invitations earlier than the suggested 6-8 weeks is bad. Although, I think you should set the deadline at least 4 weeks after sending the invitations.
@kryje003: I think your deadline is fine. 🙂
Post # 8
@bebefly: Don’t feel sheepish! I sent mine out like July 1st! lol
But in my defense almost ALL of our guests are from out of state and I set the send back date for Sept 1st. So far I’ve got 15 yes’s and 23 no’s 🙁 Most of which are FI’s family that we pretty much knew weren’t going to travel that far. But it still bums me out a little.
But to respond to the original post no I don’t think your RSVP date is too soon. You’ll need that head count to give the caterer when you find one! Good luck with that too! Don’t freak out there’s still time!
Post # 9
I did save the dates for Out of Town guests. We sent our invites at the end of July, and have gotten back 20 yes’s and 5 nos (3 kids and 2 husbands, but the wives are coming.) The RSVP date is September 16th.
Post # 10
Since you did not do STD’s, I would send them out ASAP. I sent mine on 7/27 and my RSVP date is 9/7. The sooner you send them the better.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for your input!
Post # 12
I still need to know a good RSVP deadline though. Any suggestions. If I send my invites out this coming week, what do you think would be a good return date?
Post # 13
My RSVP date is Sept 15th- I’d say if you give at least 3 weeks to retun you’re good!:)
Post # 14
I would say around sept 23rd or so. we sent ours 2 weeks ago and rsvp is the 28th.
Post # 15
We did STD’s end of July.
I just got all my invitations addressed and are in the mail today!
They have an RSVP date of October 1st on them.
I can’t believe I’m getting married 8 WEEKS FROM FRIDAY!!!
Post # 16
We’re mailing ours this weekend (I thought I was late! Feeling much better now so thank you PPs) with an RSVP of Sept. 15th. We did do STD’s though, so I decided 2 weeks was plenty of time to decide on a meal since people would have already penciled it in when they got the save the date.
It DEFINITELY is not too early to send them, but I’d extend the RSVP date. Even if you mailed them today, it will take a couple days for them to arrive at guests’ homes, local guests figure 2 days. So now they are opening it on Thursday, and to get it back to you by the 1st they really only have the weekend to decide. If you extended to at least Sept. 5 I think it’d be more considerate. But still drop em in the mail 🙂