Post # 1
As our weddings are approaching. What have you learned throughout your planning process? For me it was
- Start planning early- it’s never too early to plan. I saved myself a lot of stress by starting right away
- Don’t be impulsive- I have a tendancy to act impulsively because I want it done now, now, now. I learned to slow down, and really take my time making decisions.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. At some point there are certain things you have to let go. The more you dwell on them the more you will drive yourself crazy.
- Ask for help
- Time Management- Manage your time, think about how much time each project/task is going to take.
- Set goals for yourself- Set deadlines for yourself for when you want your projects to be complete.
- Take Time Off- Sometimes, you just need a break. Take some time away from the wedding planning and go out and do something nice for yourself
- Don’t look at everything as a whole- break it down.
Post # 3
I learned not to freak out because you don’t feel like it’s cohesive, because somehow, in the end, it all comes together!
And starting too early can make you crazy.
AND deligate things to others–you don’t have to do it all alone.
Post # 4
don’t get stressed out. even worse things will happen if you do.
Post # 5
I agree WHOLE heartedly with: DON’T be impulsive. I had to buy a whole new dress over being impulsive and getting TOO excited.
1) Cherish your time planning with your SO… it’s all about BOTH of you, not just the bride. Even if he isn’t into planning, just have fun. My relationship has grown so much throughout our engagement, and it makes me feel even more certain that this is the man I am so LUCKY to be sharing my life with.
2) Don’t sweat the small stuff (like many others have said).
3) When things stop becoming fun and start becoming stressful, you need to take a break or you need to chill the heck out. I have found that wedding planning is only stressful when a) I am getting too uptight/particular about stuff that is not a big deal, or b) when I am not effectively managing my time and I’m stressed about ‘other’ stuff. Plan early, work efficiently, and take breaks when you are stressed. I didn’t want to taint my planning with feelings of unhappiness, and I am so glad I didn’t.
4) Remember to thank people for their help and to ask when help is needed- never assume.
5) Occassionally watch an episode of Bridezilla to remind yourself what NOT to be. Alternatively, once you purchase a dress, do NOT watch ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ until your wedding is over.
That’s about all the wisdom I have 🙂
Post # 6
Don’t freak out if people don’t seem excited at first… When you’re the one getting married, 6 months out is pretty close, but for everyone else, they might not start acting excited until more like 6 WEEKS out. It doesn’t mean they don’t care.
If you need help, ask (nicely). But don’t wait for people to offer and then get disappointed if they don’t.
Surround yourself with positivity and people who you KNOW love you and have your best interests at heart. Don’t waste your time or energy on fakes and flakes. If you never could count on them before, don’t think for one second they’ll pull through for you on your big day.
Put your foot down early. Don’t compromise on things that you think will make other people happy… because really, who cares if FMIL doesn’t like your theme or the colors you chose?! Be respectful and appreciative, but be vocal about the things that are really important to you. It’s your day and it should be how YOU want it to be.
When it comes to big decisions like your dress, date and venue… Come to your final decision, but then sleep on it for one or two days.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Don’t DIY too much or too late. 😀
I pretty much agree with everything else said. Definitely agree with not stressing, especially really close to the date when the outcome at that point doesn’t really matter. 😛 I’ll have some fun stories to share when I recap. 😉