Odd Bachelorette Party Request

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee

@partyplanner83:  If they are paying they can technically do whatever they want. And while it is odd, maybe they can only afford one vacation together? A 3 day cruise can be pretty pricey and while it’s not what I personally would do, maybe they are looking at it like a mini vacation as well.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@partyplanner83:  If two girls want to bring their partners, I think that’s another way of them saying “A 3 day bachelorette party is too much”.

I agree they shouldn’t bring their men on a b. party. But let me also say: if the girls aren’t happy with what you’re planning, you need to plan something else. Because you can’t force anyone to go to a b. party. For many people, a 3 day bachelorette party is over the top.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@partyplanner83:  If you’ve never been in a military relationship, I don’t think you can judge these women for wanting to spend as much time as possible with their partners.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that it is weird to want their husband’s along, but you can’t really stop them unfortunately.

Honestly, I have a brother in the military, and I wanted to spend as much time with him as possible. I still do, and I think a husband would be even harder, even if they did have a few months to be together. It’s apparent that you don’t have a close family member or BF/FI in the military, so it may be hard for you to understand.

I would think a cruise would be expensive and I think 3 days is too much for these girls by the way they are reacting.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@partyplanner83:Have you asked the bride what she thinks? Maybe she won’t care if the guys tag along for the long weekend. You could plan a few ladies only events while on the ship. If the bride doesn’t care if they are on the ship, then there is no need for stress. It’s not like her fiance is coming…most bachelorette parties have some kind of interaction with guys anyway. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not sure if I’d actually invite him along, but I’d certainly not be interested in a 3 day bachelorette party. That’s way too long and would not be fun.

I don’t see the problem with breaking up the time together with SO’s, especially when SO is in the military. I could imagine these couples wanting to spend as much time together as possible when they’re actually able to. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree with some other PPs. FI and I groan when we’re invited to overnight bachelor/bachelorette parties because it’s too long, let alone a weekend. In my opinion a bachelorette party should be one night, no guys, doing whatever you girls want to do, but more than that is asking too much in my opinion, regardless of how fun you think it will be, people have their own lives they are more interested in. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Seattle, WA

I personally don’t think 3 days is too long. I’ve been to bachelorette parties in Las Vegas several  times and those trips always last at least 2 nights. I’ve never once seen a girl ask to bring her husband along, that is just bizarre! The whole point is to get away with the girls. Sadly if they think 3 days is too long, you may need to rethink the trip. Sorry and good luck!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Was she crazy for asking? No. Were you crazy for saying no? No. People just have different oppinions as to what is appropriate for a bach party. I hosted a girls only long weekend bachelorette party for my best friend – because that was, specifically, what she requested. It was fun but long. I could understand why it would be too much for some people. I am also very protective of my PTO, so that is something to consider.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yeaaaaa I think I would just change the plan to a non overnight bachelorette. Sucks, but you dont want husbands/boyfriends there and if you do go on a 3 day weekend that everyone is paying for themselves then those ladies can bring whoever they want, you cant stop them. The only way to stop them is do a one day party.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@partyplanner83:  I my experience with bparties you can’t try to please everyone. You are not crazy for saying no to this girl and although I agree that I personally wouldn’t want to devote 3 days to the bride, if that’s what the bride has requested and is agreed upon by the girls then go for it.

I say plan whatever the bride would want. Don’t allow the men to come. And if the military wife doesn’t want to be seperated from her hubby for 3 days then she will just have to decline the invite to the bparty. It may sound insensitive, but if you make exceptions for one girl you’ll end up getting all sorts of requests!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If the girls asking to bring their SO’s aren’t part of the bridal party I would just flat out tell them no husbands or boyfriends. If they choose not to come because of that, oh well that’s their choice. Would they have had their men tag along to Key West as well? They already said they were okay with the cost/duration/etc so if they would rather spend money on a vacation with their husbands, then don’t go to the b. party

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