Post # 1
I got an email from a friend asking:
“Hey, are we celebrating your birthday? Just wanted to ask. If so, I’m in!”
….I responded saying that there were no celebrations planned, but thanks for wanting to celebrate with me.
I guess I’m perplexed because if I wanted to celebrate someone’s b’day, I’d offer to take them out for ‘x’ or ‘y’. Not ask if there were plans to join.
……….or maybe I’m just reading into things. It’s been one of those types of days.
Curious what your take is….
Post # 4
Sound like she is hoping you are having a party. You must throw some great parties, so I would take it as a compliment.
Post # 3
Hmm it’s a little odd but I don’t think it’s a huge thing. Some people just don’t like to plan things.
Post # 5
Yeah, not a big deal. Don’t read into it 🙂 But I can understand it is a little oddly worded. I would just say.. “Yeah! What should we do?!”
Post # 5
Im taking it as they were fishing to see if you had plans before asking if you wanted to do something??
Post # 7
I agree with PP it sounds like you must have legendary celebrations. I wouldn’t think anything of it.
Post # 6
@oracle: I agree that it’s worded slightly strangely but I think the intent was good. She clearly wants to celebrate with you and sounds as though she’s making sure she’ll be available when/if there is a celebration. I’d say to her that you have nothing planned yet but would like to do something cool, does she have any suggestions?
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s too odd. I have plenty of friends who would do a similar thing. But thats just me and my disorganised friends. SOs do it too, but normally because he forgets it’s his birthday lol.
Post # 9
uhhh it is not that serious. Unless she is your BFF then I dont see the problem on her wanting to join the party if there’s a plan.
Post # 10
Hmmmmm it’s worded a bit oddly, but maybe email back and say ‘nothing so far, did you have any ideas?’ Ask her what days/times would work to meet up.
Post # 11
I don’t even think that’s worded oddly. It sounds perfectly normal to me. That’s what people say about birthdays – what are you planning? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t plan their own birthday celebrations, though – that is just the done thing with everyone I know.
Post # 12
That’s exactly how I talk so I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s totally low pressure and let’s you know, ‘hey, I’m thinking about you. If you want to hang for your b-day, I’m game’. I’d rather ask than assume I’ve invited myself to some party you weren’t planning on having or an intimate night you were planning on having with your SO.
Post # 13
Me too. I’d probably send that e mail using those exact words if I wanted to suggest that we do something for someone’s birthday without wanting to pressurise that person into feeling like they had to do something!
Post # 14
odd. I’d probably feel strange about this, too.
I’d totally read this as: “I want to have a night on the town, but don’t feel like planning it!”
I’d probably respond with: “Sure there are plans for my birthday! Why don’t you come up with them!”
Post # 15
Sounds normal to me. She wants to make sure she is available to celebrate with you, if, indeed, celebrating is what you want. If you don’t want to celebrate, maybe that will free her to make other plans.