(Closed) Odd email (or I’m reading it strangely) – how would you respond?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sound like she is hoping you are having a party.  You must throw some great parties, so I would take it as a compliment.

Post # 3
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmm it’s a little odd but I don’t think it’s a huge thing.  Some people just don’t like to plan things.

Post # 5
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, not a big deal.  Don’t read into it 🙂  But I can understand it is a little oddly worded.  I would just say.. “Yeah!  What should we do?!”

Post # 5
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Im taking it as they were fishing to see if you had plans before asking if you wanted to do something?? 

Post # 7
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with PP it sounds like you must have legendary celebrations. I wouldn’t think anything of it. 

Post # 6
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@oracle:  I agree that it’s worded slightly strangely but I think the intent was good.  She clearly wants to celebrate with you and sounds as though she’s making sure she’ll be available when/if there is a celebration.   I’d say to her that you have nothing planned yet but would like to do something cool, does she have any suggestions?  

Post # 8
3794 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t think it’s too odd.  I have plenty of friends who would do a similar thing. But thats just me and my disorganised friends.  SOs do it too, but normally because he forgets it’s his birthday lol.

Post # 9
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

uhhh it is not that serious. Unless she is your BFF then I dont see the problem on her wanting to join the party if there’s a plan.

Post # 10
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Hmmmmm it’s worded a bit oddly, but maybe email back and say ‘nothing so far, did you have any ideas?’ Ask her what days/times would work to meet up. 

Post # 11
1365 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t even think that’s worded oddly. It sounds perfectly normal to me. That’s what people say about birthdays – what are you planning? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t plan their own birthday celebrations, though – that is just the done thing with everyone I know.

Post # 12
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That’s exactly how I talk so I don’t see anything wrong with it.  It’s totally low pressure and let’s you know, ‘hey, I’m thinking about you.  If you want to hang for your b-day, I’m game’.  I’d rather ask than assume I’ve invited myself to some party you weren’t planning on having or an intimate night you were planning on having with your SO.

Post # 13
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


Me too. I’d probably send that e mail using those exact words if I wanted to suggest that we do something for someone’s birthday without wanting to pressurise that person into feeling like they had to do something!

Post # 14
3801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

odd. I’d probably feel strange about this, too.

I’d totally read this as: “I want to have a night on the town, but don’t feel like planning it!”

I’d probably respond with: “Sure there are plans for my birthday! Why don’t you come up with them!”


Post # 15
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sounds normal to me. She wants to make sure she is available to celebrate with you, if, indeed, celebrating is what you want. If you don’t want to celebrate, maybe that will free her to make other plans.

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