- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2011
So my in-laws (father-in-law and stepmother-in-law) have not been doing well financially the last few years. They declared bankrupty 10 years ago, are underwater on their house, and don’t answer their home phone because of creditors calling 24/7.
So when we planned our small destination wedding, we knew we would be paying for their expenses as well as his stepbrother’s. We had no expectation of being repaid and have never asked. But they have repeatedly said they will pay us back numerous times over the last six months.
Needless to say we have not seen any repayment. However, in those six months we have received: approximately $400 in Christmas presents, a $500 wedding gift that was explicitly labeled “not repayment for travel loan!”, and now $50 worth of stamps for my husband and a brithday present worth at least $100 for me.
What gives with this behavior? They could have just about repaid us in full if they didn’t keep giving us these “gifts.” Why do they keep bringing up the repayment of the money we spent, when they clearly don’t plan to do so, and we never ask them to do so? Can anyone shed light on this behavior?