Post # 1
I’m in the process of trying to figure out my reception seating chart and I need your advice…
My caterer and venue both assure me that the round dinner tables comfortably fit 10 and very comfortably fit 8, and that either configuration is fine. I think we’re going with 8 per table because the wedding will only have 65-80 guests, so there’s no need to crowd folks in. However, I’ve got a few oddball tables where I might have 7 or 9 guests. (Especially in my effort to seat my divorced parents with their friends rather than each other, not strand the random singleton with a bunch of the old folks, etc)
So tell me… does it look weird to have different numbers of guests at different tables? Or is it one of those things you obsess about as a bride-to-be and never actually notice as a bride? If you encountered this situation also, I want to hear what you did/are doing at your wedding — tell me about it!
Post # 3
I ran into this! I originally tried to fit the same amount at every table and realized it would be nearly impossible. We ended up with tables of 7,8,9,10 and even 11 (our parents were very specific about who they wanted at their table lol). I couldn’t even tell on the day of. I don’t think you should worry about it!
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s anything to worry about!
Post # 5
No one will notice. Not even you on your wedding day!
Post # 6
The way my seating chart is going, I’m going to have 8-9 per table as well. It’s not noticeable at all so I wouldn’t worry about it. I used to serve in a banquet hall and even then I never noticed if the tables were uneven.
Post # 7
We had each table set for the exact number of guests it had. Only varied between 7-10 like you said. I promise you, no one noticed (not even me) and it didn’t look weird!
Post # 8
We had the same thing happen. We ended up with all of the tables set for 8 (except for the bridesmaids’ and groomsmens’ tables, which were set for 10), but most of them were 7s, a couple of 8s, a 6, and one 5.
Post # 9
@brlabrat: I was just a BM for a friend last month. They had 8 per table and 1 with 9 people. It was in her backyard, so we were setting up plate settings.
When she told me to put 9 at a table, I said “ok” and did it. I honestly never even thought about it again until reading your post.
The only thing is to make sure the 1 person without a date is with people they enjoy and not going to feel awkward
Post # 10
Thanks so much ladies, this is just what I needed to hear!
Now I just have to decide if I want to try to spread everyone out at tables set for 8, and accept the occasional empty seat or two, or try and set each table for exactly the number of people I plan to seat there and occasionally have 9 to a table.
@memo: “The only thing is to make sure the 1 person without a date is with people they enjoy and not going to feel awkward” Definitely! All of the single folks coming know at least one other group/couple/person, so we are being very sensitive about seating them at tables where they can have a good time and not feel put on the spot! I know I’ve appreciated that in the past when I’ve attended weddings without a date.