(Closed) Odd present

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

One of your least expensive gifts was $40?  I don’t mean to be rude, but if I wasn’t close to someone, I don’t think I would spend $80 to buy two place settings.  Maybe she could only afford a gift of $40 and didn’t realize that there wasn’t much on your registry in that price range?

It is sort of weird that she kept talking up her gift before hand though.  I would just honestly thank her for the present and that’s it.

Post # 4
Member
5756 posts
Bee Keeper

I’ve given one place setting before, but it was certainly a lot more money than $40. (more like triple that), and never thought it wasn’t enough. Most people will give one place setting that I know, so I don’t think it’s odd at all.

Maybe she had some sudden bad luck and had to change her gift plans?

You can’t really mean you want to say something about her gift not being enough or bad luck,do you?

Post # 5
Member
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think its odd to give one place setting. Just thank them for attending and for their gift.

Post # 6
Member
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wouldn’t say anything at all! Just thank her for the lovely gift. You have to work with her so that wouldn’t be right. If you got married in July shouldn’t your thankyous already have gone out like 5 months ago? Sorry. It is odd however that she decided to talk it up so much and give you so little.

Post # 7
Member
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree that it seems odd to receive only one place setting (especially one that was $40). Was this gift physically brought to your wedding or was it delivered to your home? If it was brought to your wedding then I would assume she knew what she was giving you. However, if it was delivered to you directly from the stores website then maybe the store messed up and didn’t include the whole gift. Either way, I would not say something about it. Just send her a thank you card thanking her for the “place setting”. That way if there really was supposed to be more to the gift, she can initiate the conversation. 

Post # 9
Member
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I wouldn’t say anything about the gift.  That may be all that she could spend, and you registered for it, so she probably felt like she is giving you something you really want. 

I was in grad school two years ago when a friend from high school got married.  I could only afford to send the mixing bowls she registered for.  I felt pretty crappy about it…but sometimes that’s the way it goes!

Post # 10
Member
1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s definitely weird that she would talk up her gift so much and then give you something that’s kinda useless by itself, but if I were you I’d just be happy she was so excited about my wedding and thank her graciously for the gift.

It’s probably best to try not to compare her gift to you with something you gave to her kid–some people are just bad gift-givers.  I have family members who are loaded and give the worst, cheapest gifts ever.

Post # 11
Member
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I attended a shower this weekend where the bride received a single place setting as a gift. I don’t think it’s an unusual gift. In this case, the bride made a joke about her FI having to eat off the table, since it was only one place setting.

Of course it’s odd that your friend seemed to have something so special in mind, maybe she had another gift in mind but someone had already purchased it, or you didn’t register the way she had expected?

It’s very touchy to ask about a gift without sounding critical or ungrateful, so I would tread carefully if you truly feel it necessary to ask her, or, as many others have suggested, just let it go and thank her!

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