Odd Situation: Can't have a real registry, will honeymoon registry work?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Given the circumstance which would you choose?
    State no gifts : (17 votes)
    27 %
    Ask for Cash : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Do a Cash registry : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Do a Honeymoon registry : (36 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
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    2276 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @asianbarbie:  I think the honey moon fund is appropriate in this situation.

    Post # 5
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think given your situation asking for no gifts are fine. Most people would say leave it off the invitation altogether but that doesn’t stop your great aunt from buying something anyway. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Humm…is it possible that a family member would be willing to store gifts for you long term until you’re transferred back to the states?

    onestly though, this is one of the few situations that my anti-honeymoon registry self wouldn’t find it rude.   You know your guests best. Would they find a honeymoon registry to be acceptable or in poor taste?  If you think most would be ok with it, then do it. Just make sure you find one that doesn’t take too big of a cut of your guests gifts. 

    I’m not a fan of honeymoon registries personally, but they’re pretty common nowadays. If it was me, I’d just simply not register and hope guests get the hint that money is preferred.


    Post # 8
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    7410 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    If most guests know your situation then they will know that physical gifts/gift cards are out. So wouldn’t they naturally either give you cash or no gift?

    Personally I would find it rude if it was mentioned. Kind of like you think I was so unintelligent that I couldn’t work out that cash was the right gift in this situation.

    Post # 9
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    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would totally do a “honey fund” in your situation. You totally deserve some r&r with your new hubby. 

    Post # 10
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    4 posts
    Wannabee

    I think a HM fund is a fine idea! that way people won’t feel weird just giving you cash and can feel like they are still giving you a “gift” by helping with your honeymoon. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    7410 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @asianbarbie:  Those guests are going to get you a physical gift regardless. Some people are just not comfortable with non-physical gifts.

    Post # 14
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    7410 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @asianbarbie:  Can you do an amazon registry? Or some kind of registry that has delivery?

    Post # 15
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    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I live in different states from my DH and we had no plans in the immediate future to move in together so we felt having a regular registry was not appropriate. We had no registry, not even a honeymoon one, and if anyone asked, we said we would accept anything the guest wished to give. 95% of the guests gave us monetary gifts. It was not an issue for my friends and family as far as I know. If your guests know your situation, which assuming you are inviting people close to you, they should understand. I don’t think you should feel worried about not having regular registries.

     

    Post # 16
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    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am in nearly this exact situation (ohhhh military), so I feel your pain! My family gave me a pretty hard time when I said I didn’t want to register anywhere, so instead I created an Amazon registry with some smaller items (physically smaller). We’ve gotten more checks than anything else though, so I think people understand our situation and are preferring to give money.

    Having said that, I don’t think a honeymoon registry is bad. You have good reason for it 🙂

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