Post # 1
I just posted on another board about Out of Town showers, but my only bridal shower so far is one my FMIL’s friends are hosting in the Midwest, where Fiance is from. I have no family or friends in that area, and I’m getting married back in my hometown in NC, so all of my bridesmaids, family, and girlfriends live in other places… NC, NYC, or AZ. Anyone that came would definitely have to fly in.
My mom is coming to the shower, but unfortunately logistics would make it very difficult for my sister (MOH) to come, and I don’t expect my other two bridesmaids or family or anyone else to fly in for this because it would be a lot of $$.
Future Mother-In-Law is very traditional, and has asked several times if someone else is throwing me a “local” shower (she assumes there should be another one), but I don’t think anyone is, and I’m totally okay with that. I think one shower is PLENTY, but it’s starting to make me feel weird that my only shower is going to be with my mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and ALL of my Future Mother-In-Law friends!
So that was basically a very long winded question to see if anyone else has had a bridal shower like that, where it was mostly strangers for Fiance family, and how did it go?
Post # 3
I think it’s very sweet that FMIL’s friend is throwing you a shower. What a wonderful way to meet the women that have been in FI’s life. I understand being disappointed that none of your close friends will be there – but, I don’t think it’s all that uncommon when families live in different areas and I’m sure it will be a great party!
Post # 4
I have a feeling I’ll be in the same boat – my FI’s from Richmond, while my bridesmaids are scattered in NC, VA, and DC. I hope they will all be able to make it to a shower here in my hometown in MD!
Post # 5
I was the same! One shower where my parents live (I have never lived there) with just my mom and her friends in attendance. I told my BMs not to worry about coming (would require a flight) and that I didn’t need another local shower. If you don’t care about them then don’t worry about having another one!! Don’t let your Future Mother-In-Law make you feel you need something you don’t care about. To me showers are generally not fun, and I would have been fine with NO showers.
Oh and my shower was absolutely lovely 🙂
Post # 6
One of mine was ONLY my MIL’s family. She and my SIL threw it for me. My Maid/Matron of Honor came with me (not even my mom could come in town). It as really awkward. There were about 24 women there. They mostly talked amongst themselves. Only one woman came up and complimented me on my outfit…which was new and I totally stressed over, so that was weird. My Maid/Matron of Honor had to leave early so then it was JUST ME! Then one lady came up to me and asked about my siblings. I’ve gotten good at dodging questions politely, eluding that my brother died in a car accident and let’s not talk about it mkay? Well, said lady had no manners and i was in the corner of a room and she just kept talking to me about it. i was getting really upset and my Mother-In-Law and SIl were so sorry she woudln’t stop. So yeah i ended up crying. It was a nice shower but it was just weird =. At least your mom is there!
I ended up having a local shower with 7 of my brides (6 were bridesamids, lol) and my mom.