- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So… I’m pretty private about this stuff (ie. I don’t really talk about it to my work friends, or my best friends) but I am beginning to feel like there is something seriously wrong with me.
When my fiance and I met, and first started dating we were having sex every chance we got, which from what I understand is quite normal initially.
From there, he worked out of town M-F and I was in school, so we really only saw eachother on weekends (we didn’t live together at this time) and we would probably have sex 3-4 x that weekend.
We moved in together a year and a half ago, and really, since then our sex life has sort of fizzled, especially in the last year.
I have body issues (who doesn’t) that have gotton much worse in the last year and a half. I have put on about 15lbs and I am super unhappy with myself.
I am beginning to feel like a freak because my fiance has tried EVERYTHING and I’m like a stone. A cold, emotionless stone. It is SO hard for me to even feel turned on.
Lately (last 6 months easy) I have been having sex with him just because I feel so bad about the way I have made him feel. The guy I dated before my fiance NEVER wanted to have sex with me and it made me feel terrible.
My fiance has tried wining and dining me, massaging me, lots of foreplay, he’s put on porn, he’s rubbed my feet, he’s tried coming on strong, and ignoring me for a week.
Nothing makes me REALLY REALLY want to have sex with him like I did before.
I love my fiance. I think he is a sexy, handsome man. He has a great body. He treats me great. He has only ever said positive things about my body. He tries to make me feel good about my body.
He is getting increasingly upset and even a little angry that nothing is working.
Does anyone have ANY suggestions/similar stories?
I am open to pretty much anything.