Post # 1
I live in the midwest where apparently my engagement ring is larger than average. I have a 1 ct solitaire. I love it and think it is perfect, but get strange comments on a fairly regular basis. Some of them are as follows
Wow! That is huge!
Must be nice to have the money to spend on a ring like that!
That must have cost a pretty penny!
Wow, you must be good in bed! (seriously, someone said this to me)
The worst was my husband’s sister going off on us about how he (husband) had the perfect life, and a perfect fiance and bought me the perfect ring. (Angrily) She then proceeded to tell him that here she is on welfare and broke and he spent money on a ring like THAT! (As if he should have mailed her a $4000.00 check and not bought me a ring?)
Have you had any similar experiences and if so what is the size of your ring?
Post # 3
Ugh that’s so horrible. I think people should keep their mouth shut about others rings whether they are huge or small. They are all beautiful and what’s really beautiful is the commitment that is shared that it symbolizes!
Post # 4
I live in the midwest as well, and have heard some of those comments. Before I was engaged I did not pay attention to rings, therefore, I had no idea what was considered “small, average, or large” for diamonds. I was just happy he proposed and happy that my ring was pretty (to me).
Whoa thats a big rock!
Jeesh, How much does he make?
Can I see your ring? Oh… (They literally sneered at me and didn’t say any more)
Oh, Did you make him buy that?
Usually I’m so taken aback that I am speachless and I don’t know what to say.
Post # 5
I agree I think it’s really tacky when people even ASK what size, much less comment on anything regarding size/price (how much you spent) or anything. I think appropriate comments are like “That is really pretty.” And then you’re done. haha.
I get sort of weird comments like “It looks so much bigger than it is.” Um. Thanks? (It’s a half carat in a halo with pave band, so yeah it does, but damn.) People really don’t understand the odd or rudeness of their comments.
Post # 6
The whole ring thing still creeps me out. It brings out the evil in some women. I’ve only had mine 6 months and I’ve already gotten the “huddle” around me to see it, and then, of course, for the others to show me theirs, and on one to many occassions to “one up” me with their bigger stone. It’s just not what I have the ring for and it’s just not the way I want to relate to other women.
I find myself self-conscious sometimes, avoiding body language that exposes my ring so I can avoid the “huddle” as well as keep anyone without a ring from feeling like I’m emphasizing it.
Post # 7
@Whimsical.Sprite: Oh yes, the famous “He must be loaded” comment. And who could forget “How big is that thing?”
Post # 8
@MrsFuzzyFace: Yeah, they are just never comments I would make to anyone. I suppose people don’t realize what comes flying out of their mouthes sometimes. I try to take it with a grain of salt and realize that they probably don’t mean it. If they do, then I hope they are green with envy!
Post # 9
I never realized untill recently that people have different ideas about rings in different parts of the country! I am in NY…ALbany NY, not the city!! I have a 1.5 carat solitaire diamond. It’s beautiful! But I could have went bigger but decided against seeing that we already have 2 children and I could put the money away for them!! I think my ring is in the middle, I have seen much larger and much smaller!! People dont say many negative things here. I do get alot of compliments and question about the quality.. Its very sparkley 🙂 Tell all the haters to stop being jealous!!!!! ANd enjoy your ring !
Post # 10
@jenlee1: It’s definitely regional as to what sizes are “normal/average.” It’s just so weird to me that people think it’s okay to comment on people’s ring sizes EVER! haha.
Post # 11
I have been shocked by how tacky people can be…It can be as uncomfortable as if they were calling it ugly or something! One of FI’s friends said at a dinner table of loads of us, “What is that, like the Hope Diamond or something? How much are they PAYING you, man?”
Insert awkward laughs and desperate reaching to change the subject.
Post # 12
@AmeliaBedelia:I think it’s rude to comment on the size. I would never do that! I think people who do that are jealous!
Post # 13
@jholler25: Exactly…it is definitely UNCOMFORTABLE!
Post # 14
My solitaire is only .8ct but apparently that’s a lot bigger than average where I’m from… pretty much most people who have seen it make extremely rude comments, well they might mean well but I find it to be very rude!! Most common is “what! how on earth could he afford that?” and “is it real??”. My usual reply is a casual “I dunno, he told me he found it in the lost property box at work.” to which they either laugh or look way confused.
Post # 15
@Novemberfriends: Ha I like your answer. That is so stupidddd. No, he stole it…We can’t afford it.
@jenlee1: It’s funny because mine isn’t anything I’d consider huge, it just looks bigger than it is. I would never comment on the size EVER. I don’t even ASK, I just sort of speculate in my head. haha.
Post # 16
@MrsFuzzyFace: Diva…stop worrying about the haters and focus on the wonderful life that you’re embarking on. My ring is a fabulous size and I WISH someone would make my day by saying something rude about it! <LMBO>
So live…laugh..and flash that beautiful rock Chica!!!!