Post # 1
I bought my dress. After months of “I want this, I don’t want that” I ended up trying on and LOVING a dress that had everything I didn’t think I’d want or be able to wear. It’s a strapless number that makes me feel like a sassy, adult, and fierce bride while still being classy. I zipped into a 22W like it was made for me. <br />AND it was on sale. I mean, I’m pretty sure this dress and I were as fated as me and DF. HOWEVER.
When I sent pictures of it (and me in it) to my MOH she made a remark about how some girls have “back cleavage” and how it “just looks terrible” when they wear strapless dresses. I had never (and I’m 35) heard of such a horrible thing. It wasn’t followed with anything like “Not that you have to worry about it or anything,” and so I go between not caring and being pretty hurt. I mean, it’s MY DRESS. I’ve paid a big chunk of it off. I love it and dream of it. Why the heck would anyone say such a mean thing? Am I crazy for being so offended?
At the time it happened, I was so blindsided I couldn’t even speak for a few minutes. I mean COME ON WHO SAYS THAT?
Thanks for letting me vent. This girl and I have been friends for over 10 years and it just seemed like such a crappy out-of-left-field thing to say when I was glowing with excitement.
Post # 2
“Back cleavage” is caused by wearing a dress that is ill fitting (usually too tight), not by being plus sized. Honestly, I probably would have said something about “good thing I don’t have to worry about that. Unfortunately, you have to wear that face everyday”. She sounded like a bitch.
Post # 3
mrswho: It sounds like your friend has foot in mouth disease. I think the best thing you can do is make sure your have an awesome seamstress for alterations and look fabulous on your wedding day.
Can we see a pic of the dress?
Post # 4
mrswho: yeah back cleavage is a thing, but it can be fixed with alterations. I’d just take her remark as not liking dresses that fit poorly.
Your dress will fit great!
Post # 5
You should see my amazing back cleavage in my wedding gown! I ordered my dress the same size as the sample that was giving me that. Did I care? Nope! Aren’t alterations just amazing…. I didn’t care because one it is fixed, that won’t be an issue anymore
Don’t let your friend get to you, that dress isn’t made for you just yet, you still have to get it altered to fit your body and your curves.
Post # 6
Sounds like your “friend” is a little envious about something you’ve got going on.
Post # 7
This is is my dress: Allure 311. I googled “back cleavage” this morning and had no idea this was a thing, but at least it can be helped!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Some people just don’t know how to act.
My SIL (and very good friend), after I tried on dresses, said something like “Yeah, I was amazed at how skinny they made you look!” Thanks, biatch.
Don’t let her spoil your mood. I’m sure you will look kick-ass in that dress and she will feel like a complete moron! (Or she won’t, b/c she’s a dumbass, not sure, lol)
Post # 9
mrswho: Beautiful dress! It will look great on a curvy bride
Post # 10
mrswho: who seriously does say that! especially someone like a MOH. shes supposed to be supportive not a bitch. i’m sure the dress looks beautiful on you. don’t listen to her skank ass lol
Post # 12
mrswho: Love your dress! …but I’m completely biased as that was my dress too! Great taste 😉 I’m sure you’ll look fabulous in it!
Post # 13
My daughter is quite tiny and she still had back cleavage. The bridal salon told her that the lace fabric will stretch out a little while you wear it. If it doesnt start out a little tight, it will end up too loose. It was true. By the end of the night her dress was definitely much looser. They showed us how to smooth out the cleavage by running your finger from the middle out to the arms. They will take care of you at your alterations and as long as you aren’t too uncomfortable, it will be fine. You will look beautiful in that dress!