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...or, I Didn't Even Get Flowers.
Nope, not one. I got some candles that he said he got because they were on sale, and a card, and take out sushi. Oh, and I got, "Are you sad that I didn't get you flowers? Sorry." I don't get it.
I am not feeling too optimistic today. Trying not to get upset over this stupid day with its stupid expectations.
If this were any other day on the calendar I'd be raving about what a great guy I have. Which is true. Just this stupid "holiday" setting me up for disappointment.
Love him. Love what he got for me. Just don't get that he knew I wanted flowers and didn't even stop to get me some...I wouldn't have minded if he didn't throw in that comment though.
Boo hoo hoo.
Who else is disappointed by this stupid pink heart on the calendar?
My SO and I went out on Saturday. He took me to a fancy restraunt and got me a card. It was really nice but of course I wanted a proposal that did not happen. 
I don't know what is going to happen today. Hopefully, I will not have a melt down. That's all I can hope for. I hope your day gets better.
I talked to my daughter online today and she told her BF has to work tonight. She and her BFF will go out to dinner after work. Not to trash the guy entirely, they did get away this last weekend and had a wonderful time.
No engagement for her today.
Yep, we went out for a nice weekend two weeks ago (which we called an early Valentines day). Well today's the real Valentines day and nothing...he's cooking me dinner but that happens a lot. The worst part is I have a sinking feeling there will be no proposal, even though the ring is sitting in the next room in a box. Hope we can all enjoy our days anyways.
i'm sorry to barge in on the waiting thread. I am engaged, but sorely SORELY disapointed by our first valentines day as an engaged couple. I got nothing and i mean nothing. and we had a HUGE fight because i couldn't hide my disapointment. I think he thinks that because he's popped the question after all these years he doesn't have to ever work hard to keep me happy. he hates valentines day and i'm starting to hate it too!!!
...nothing here... absolutely nothing..
but i am alreayd engaged so, maybe I shouldnt complain?
no.. still bummed.
@ScarletBegonia: I feel ya.
nothing here too.
Not waiting, but disappointed. He doesn't believe in V-day and I have never been with a man that skipped it. It's hard to think about the long weekend getaways and candle lit dinners with douchebag ex when I'm sitting here alone reasy to go get a bottle of wine and just get smashed and clean the house. *sighs*
Got nothing, but at least I was told not to expect anything. But still.. the hopeful romantic inside me was reallllllyyy wishing for some surprise flowers, or chocolates, or even a card! But nada.. oh well.
I didn't get anything and I'm not the least bit disappointed but I'm pretty indifferent when it comes to Valentine's Day. I'd rather he randomly sent me flowers any other day of the year than feel obligated to do so on February 14th.
To the people who are disappointed - did you get him anything for V-Day?
@Meealissa: Technically, no I didn't *get* him anything. But I did make him an amazing dinner with all his favourite foods.
ETA: and I made apple pie!
@Meealissa: I got him his favourite chocolates in the shape of a heart. And I'm not disappointed at the lack of a gift, since we did go away a couple of weeks ago, but more disappointed at the lack of a proposal!
@Meealissa: yep - got him the cufflinks for him to wear at our wedding. that really killed him, and sparked the fight. not the happiest camper today to be honest :(
@Gingersnap: yep - i hear ya - he's a huge hater and feels like one of the PP does - would rather get me flowers any other day of the year than vday, yada yada yada...yeah well where are the flowes on May the 5th assh**e!!? So although i knew i likely wasn't getting anything, the romantic in me still hoped...and thats what was disapointed!
At least we can all take comfort here!
I did get him a gift. He got me a couple of things but presented it the last couple of days as "Oh, I can't wait to give you all your gifts, I really hope you like them... I got you a LOT of gifts!" I got three candles. Which I do love. Now he's playing sad puppy because he can tell I'm disappointed over no flowers. That's really all I wanted, a show of affection, its like the one cliche thing I really want. All my Vdays by myself, I always dreamed of getting the traditional chocolates and flowers from a guy, and I never got that :( I even got HIM chocolates!
I'm incredibly heartbroken about our first v-day as marrieds. I'm a romantic. I fantasize about all the mushy mushy stuff that goes on in movies on Valentine's Day. He's never been too romantic, and the amount of effort going into V-Day has been dwindling. I thought maybe, just maybe things would be different now that we're married. Nope. Still sad. I don't want to have to ask to be romanced. I want him to just do it, instead of waiting for very specific instructions. Instructions defeat the purpose!!!
He said he'd cook or buy dinner yesterday, and he completely blew it off AND didn't talk to me from the time we got home from grocery shopping until AFTER I was nodding off. (He gets home at 10:20 at night - not much chance to celebrate today.) I got roses that were already half-wilted, a tin of Sweethearts (which I don't like but he does) and a bag of his favorite chocolates (raspberry Ghiradelli)... and a cessation of sex until the wedding (his decision - it seems both superfluous and contrived to me. He thinks it'll make our lack-of-honeymoon even better. 'Cause his being deployed for four-six months afterwards isn't enough of a break. Oh, I just figured out why I'm PMSy at the wrong time of month.) He got a wine, cheese, and chocolate tasting, along with a home brewery, and a meal of salmon stuffed with gouda and crab.
Last year, he did Valentine's day well (roses that lasted more than a day, a teddy bear, a hat, chocolates - which we shared, and a walk in the snow) and I just made a nice meal. This year, I did well and he didn't. Maybe we'll hit a happy medium
Im not disappointed that we arent doing anything "special" - we are having my brother and his gf and our 2 friends over for dinner in a few minutes. We werent doing Valentines Day in terms of flowers or cards or canday.....but I am disappointed that we got into a fight about cleaning tonight!!
I don't have any dissapointments but maybe that's because we don't celebrate v-day. However I was surprised to see a message from my SO on FB. He is not the romantic type at all. He wrote happy v-day to my love vegan. I loved it so I guess I'm happy.
I even told DH exactly what I wanted (an electric toothbrush) and he wasn't bothered enough to go and buy it. I doubt he got me a card. Bah.
Yeah... we celebrated on Saturday, or at least we had talked about that being the day to celebrate. I was out that morning running errands while he slept in for a bit. came home and surprised him with his homemade gift and the cutest card... and he says "Oh yah, you are going to get your gift tomorrow, I didnt have time." Time? Time??? We have been planning on celebrating on Saturday for a few weeks now, I've been talking about how I was so excited to give his gift to him for forever! And he didnt have time to stop at the store and grab flowers or even a card for the day planned (he was playing video games when I came home). Then after a long argument he went out to the store in his pajamas and bought flowers, which were more very pretty argument flowers than anything. And I guess dressing up was a chore for him that night for dinner, but really? putting on a button up over his cargos and tshirt was too much to handle when I was in a dress?
And now he is at work for the night on actual valentines day.
erggg.
thanks for letting me vent :)
Oh and his homemade gift... I recreated these:
He really is normally a sweet loving romantic guy... but this weekend he failed... lol
I'm....torn, I guess, about my Valentine's Day.
Bf lives in Northern CA while I live in TN for school. He's away on business up north (further north) and since we're LDR, I thought it would be cute for both of us to make ourselves a nice-ish dinner and for us to have dinner together over skype. He thought it was a great idea 2 weeks ago.
Flash forward to 2 days ago and our convo goes:
Him: i don't think I'm going to be able to make it back home by valentine's day...I could skype you from here, but I want to have a private dinner with you without having to be in someone's living room (he's staying at a partner's house). I'm aiming for getting back Wednesday
Me: that's okay sweetie, we can just move it back! But I have an exam on Friday, so it'll have to be Wednesday night or Friday night
Him: That would be really great! I can definitely do that.
Flash forward to yesterday. Our convo goes:
Him: so I need to meet up with more business contacts when I get back home...I need to meet with X on Friday and Y on Sunday...
Me: well...I guess we can move it back to Saturday or next Monday...*disappointment creeping into voice*
Him: no no no! I'll make it back Wednesday! We'll do it Wednesday."
Me Thinking: hah, you make yourself dinner and skype with me for longer than 20 mins after a 6 hr drive? Not likely...
I haven't talked to him tonight, but I have a feeling that Wednesday is not going to happen. I'm kind of at a point where I don't even care. I'm sad that I don't care but also relieved to not have to deal with emotional turmoil while studying. I guess I'm used to being alone at this point, so what's the point of a special date if I can't be with him physically anyways.
Sorry for uber-long post. I should be studying, but clearly I don't feel like it. :-P
I expected nothing. On Sunday, we went to dinner and Rock of Ages musical. For V-day today I got special I love you texts and extra kisses when he left. That was the best part.
I got the same old same old. Basically he rushed to the grocery store on his way home from work and got what was left in the clearance aisle LOL. Now I'm sitting here alone downing apple martinis and watching Super Troopers... and cleaning.
We went out for a nice supper which was unexpected since we had decided to split on a wii instead of going out, and he made me a drink with some surprise pink heart shaped icecubes (: i wasn't really expecting him to propose but he made it sound like he was going to. He said I should dress up, that he was feeling nervous and that he had a surprise for me later and my hint was that it would last forever. I hadn't been expecting it this morning but after all that I was really getting excited, it didn't happen. oh well haha, he was really sweet in other ways.
Well... we went to our usual "romantic occasions" restaurant on Saturday, and I honestly wasn't expecting a proposal, but I have to say that I'm kind of disappointed. Nothing else, nada. I just can't shake the feeling that if this is all he wants to do on our second V-Day together, I really don't have a lot to look forward to except avoiding all things V-Day related as much as when I was single. I was going to put together a basket of treats for him, but canned the idea when I realized he wasn't doing anything like that.
This is weird to me, I've never been into the whole holiday much, but having the man of my life and still feeling left out in the cold about V-Day is kind of sucky.
Thank God I'm not the only one with a less than romantic BF! I started a whole thread about it yesterday. I'm gonna be totally lazy and instead of typing it all again, I'll just link it here, so feel free to go over and read it if you feel like it.
Suffice it to say, dudes need to wake the eff up! We did exchange gifts and cards, but the romance lasted about a total of 5 whole minutes. The rest of the day and this evening has been business as usual. Men suck.
We had our Valentines Date on Saturday. Dinner and a couples massage. It was pretty awesome even though my guy ended up having to work that morning and was almost late for the massage appointment. We had already spent a good deal of money on our Saturday activities, so we decided to not buy each other anything big. But today I still went and got him some chocolates and a funny card. He didn't get me anything. LOL. Totally not surprised. But it would have been nice to get flowers or something. That is what Valentines does though. Sets us up for nothing. LOL. Oh well!
I wanted to stop by TJMaxx today to see if they had a curtain rod and there happen to be a super market next door, and we needed milk. So I went to TJ, and he went to the market. When I came back out to the car, he showed me that he got.... butter. Soemthing I had forgotten the last 3 trips. Then he says, I almost got you chocolate for v-day too! So I said, why didnt you?? He goes.. I'm gonna get it tomorrow! When its on sale! HAHA! It just cracked me up, but totally not disappointed. I'm not big into v-day and he knows that already.
Update: He went to bed at 6:40 pm....sweeeeet....
Not my disappointment but surely someone elses: yesterday I stood at a bus stop across from a florist and watched the lady closing shop while telling some guy off for leaving his flower shopping to the last minute as they were out of red roses. Ouch. 
@Meealissa: Yeah. He got head this morning before the carbon monoxide scare. lol
But that's okay. I have a bottle of wine and some Applebee's. I'm not doing shit tomorrow at work. lol
I got an eviction notice for V-Day.... Because my payment never went through and they didn't tell me. So... yeah... He works all day so I went up to his work so I could spend SOME time with him.
@Meealissa: I'm not big on V-day either. In fact, my parent's v-day cards went in the mail today because I forgot about it until I got a package from them. Whooooops! But for some reason I am feeling a bit sad and I don't know if it's related to V-day or not. Maybe it's just I'm sad that I don't care? Either way, I'd definitely prefer random flowers to Hallmark-induced flowers.
SO & I did nothing but have Valentine sprinkle donuts for breakfast. We're in an LDR so I had to leave after breakfast anyways. But even if we were living in the same town we would've done nothing.
Not too dissapointed fortunately! That's the blessing of low expectations. :P Not really his fault though--he made surprise reservations on Friday and said it was for Valentine's Day. It was one of my favorite restaurants and we had a lovely time. :) But I knew that was all of Valentine's Day so I knew nothing was coming today ahead of time.
I made him a nice little dinner today, and that was it. :)
My SO had the flu this week. :( He did leave flowers and a nice card sitting out when I got home this weekend, which was sweet, though. I just love getting cards from him, they always make me cry.
But we didn't really do anything special for today. I used to be HUGE about Valentine's Day with ex's, but now that I'm with the person I want to spend forever with, none of that silly stuff seems to matter as much, it's weird. As we were doing dishes together after dinner we were just discussing how much we love each other and we didn't really need a special day to let each other know. So, I guess in a way we had a sweet night doing our regular thing.
Being with someone I love so much has really put the important things into perspective. And Valentine's day isn't really one of them, anymore, I guess?
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