Office xmas etiquette – boss gifts? Help!

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPanda99:  I’m a firm believer that gift giving to/from bosses is inappropriate.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’ve always been told you don’t gift up the chain, just down. 

We do a Kris Kringle, and the bosses play, so someone gifts them.  But if it were’t for that, no one would.  (FWIW, they don’t actually give us gifts either.  They do put on a lunch for us though.) 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

We do a white elephant in my office and I always get stuck with something crappy (going on 3 years now) so I’m picking out something equally as crappy for a gift to give, we really do this all in fun. Other than that I give nothing. I’m traveling overseas this year and am very close with a coworker and I’ll probably bring her back chocolates but that’s more of a friend gift than a work gift.

I like your idea of wine and chocolate. I am with you, many people are particular on red wines so I’d give white wine and make sure it’s not too sweet or dry. Even if they don’t like it, it’s really the thought that counts and I’m sure they will remember you thought of them during the holiday season.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I agree with julies1949 – I don’t think you gift your bosses.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

At our company (about 20 people) we all throw in some cash (whatever we’re comfortable with) and just get the boss a gift card.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPanda99:  It could be because I’ve always worked in government jobs. It’s easier to be impartial, neutral and fair if neither the employer nor the emloyee are potentially affected by the gifts they have received from the other.

It’s the perception that is important, not whether or not there really is any favoritism.

I have also encouraged fellow employees at every worksite I have worked, to use the money they would have spent on a gift exchange to sponsor a family instead. Most of us are so blessed and really don’t need another mug filled with poor quality chocolate when there are families out there who literally only have one set of clothes each.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You gift down or sideways on the company ladder, never up. That’s always been how I’ve been told and experienced. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@julies1949:  I disagree, but I think it needs to be an all or nothing thing.

Sometimes all of the people will pitch in for a gift or a card for their boss.  Sometimes bosses get a gift for everyone.  That’s ok.

Another option is to bring in baking or something for everyone to share, including a boss.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I guess our dept. is a little odd, because we all gift. We pitch in for a big gift for the main boss, and we give one another little items. I never spend more than $10 per person. Technically I do give gifts to my superiors, and they give me small gifts as well.

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would never give gifts to a boss. Think it’s inappropriate.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’ve always gifted my bosses but none of my work environments have ever been too corporate-y. And I gift because I feel close to them and get along with them. One company was just myself, another admin, and the owner/boss and I was there for two years. My current office now has 10 employees and I’ve been here for about two and a half years. The first Christmas I got him a jar of almond rocha ’cause it’s his favorite, the second year a $15 iTunes gift card (because he uses his iPad for work and buys all kinds of apps), and this year I’ll be giving him a bottle of liquor. Our holiday parties are at his house. In this case, I don’t feel that it’s inappropriate.

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