(Closed) Officially Annoyed: Vent (**not about FI, IL, Parents, or Friends**)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3012 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Ms. Polar Bear: Sorry to hear that you’re experiencing this.  It can be hard to state your opinion on here and not get lashed out by others.  I’m not sure of what post you’re speaking about so I can’t say much else.  I hope this doesn’t drive you away!  I know I steer clear of certain posts because of this particular reason.  I’d rather not deal with any sort of drama online.  I’ll just stick to wedding and silly related posts.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I have to agree, sometimes I don’t get he back and forths between posters- I can understand between OP and posters. Not everyone is going to agree, sometimes it’s best to respectfully disagree.

Post # 5
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sometimes, you just gotta step away from a thread. You’ve said your piece, others don’t agree and that’s fine. But when you engage in a back and forth on a thread that’s not your own…I tend to see that’s where more people jump in to express their disagreement.

People can disagree with your opinion…and these threads aren’t debates where there is a “winner”…everyone is just giving the OP their opinion.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

double post

Post # 6
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297 posts
Helper bee

I said this before a couple months ago, but every woman knows the friends she needs to confide in when she just wants a good ole bitch session.  (ya know, lots of “I can’t believe that”, or “wow, that sucks!!”).  And conversely, every woman knows the friends she needs to confide in when she wants truth and facts and possibly some tough love.  The internet is fair game…you’re gonna get some Friend #1 replies and some Friend #2 replies and it sucks when the posters can’t deal with both and can’t see that each kind of reply for what it is- good natured and friendly. 

Post # 7
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just state your opinion and move on. Some will agree, some will disgree.. the way I look at it, it takes two to argue. just let the other person(s) have the last word and move on to another thread

Post # 8
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

That is frustrating and I’m sorry!! But im glad you walked.. or clicked away lol..Just breath!! 🙂

Post # 10
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

@Ms. Polar Bear: I’ve posted on the thread you’re talking about, and I don’t think people are being overly mean about their opinions. That’s why these boards are here…someone asks for advice, and there are going to be differing opinions on that advice. B/c someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean their opinion on the situation isn’t also valid.

I think you need to know when to walk away from a poster like the other bees have said. More often than not, you aren’t going to change someone’s opinion drastically by posting. The post you’re talking about – she made up her mind before she even posted…she just wanted to get validation that her feelings were the right ones. So…let that one go.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Ms. Polar Bear: “But I feel like only me and two other people seem to see the situation as it is while everyone else is into that groupthink mentality”

Honestly, there are posts where the majority of the responders share the same opinion. Just like it is YOUR opinion that you are seeing the situation as it should be, it’s others opinion that THEY are seeing it correctly…then the back and forth begins. Just like in “real life” people have this need to get others to see, and agree with, their point of view. I have been following the other thread and I haven’t seen any snarkiness or rudeness, or even disrespect to the GF. Like the PP stated…sometimes it’s best to just speak your piece and keep it movbing. 

Post # 12
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know the one you mean….I have avoided commenting on it because I saw the direction things were going…I agree with the PPs, sometimes you just have to click the ‘x’ and close the thread. I had this happen with a thread I was on a week or so ago, I had a different opinion and got chewed out by the OP, so I just stopped commenting. Its not worth it to let it get to you. Sometimes people just want to post their thoughts and have people agree with them. Sorry that you had to deal with the drama 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I feel like sometimes it’s best, like other PPs said, to say your piece and not get too involved.

A post yesterday got me frustrated, and it was about something really silly anyway. An article that was posted and I read some of the comments before reading the article. Once I read the article, I felt like a lot of the comments were somewhat off base, and possibly that some of the commenters did not even read the article, which for some reason (PMS), I found thoroughly annoying. But instead of continuing to comment, I let it go, because it wasn’t worth it to me to get worked up about someone who chose to comment without even reading the article.

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