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my hubby officially asked my to be his gf.... i would elaborate, but i am ssoaking jalapeno pepper burns on my dominant hand..... :(
So.... i don't think that it is weird. :P
It sounds kind of strange...how old is she though? If she's a teen, it's probably not as strange just because I remember how we would "like each other for a while and finally become bf/gf out of the blue haha.
It is just slang. That is what my friends and I always said in place of "asked me to be his girlfriend" or "go steady." I am 22, so I am obviously still young, and actually close in age to juniors in college, but yeh, that is just how a lot of us say it. :)
Edit: Perhaps I misread the post, but I agree with the poster below me that you still need to ask to be exclusive. Anything before that is just deciding if you want to actually be exclusive.
I don't think so. I thought in adult world you still had to ask to be exclusive. Or at least have the conversation that you weren't seeing anyone else.
I guess I just don't see the point of officaly asking her out when it was 1. their first date adn 2. they both know they aren't seeing or thinking about seeing anyone else.
But how would they both know that that is what they were thinking if neither said anything? How would you know until he asked?
You said that he was undecided about officially dating her, well this is him officially telling her that he wants to be her boyfriend.
I asked my boyfriend if that was what he was going to be after what might have been considered a couple of dates (we were 16 at the time) but it still needed to be cleared up. Were we just having fun and going on a couple of dates, or would he be there for me? When I introduced him, was it as "friend" or "boyfriend"?
I think that it is sweet and totally logical to be blunt about it and make it clear that he is going to be her boyfriend.
We were 25 when we started dating, and my husband definitely asked me to be his girlfriend.
I don't think it's strange in the least. I asked Mr.Cosmo if we were exclusive after a few dates...
The only strange part is that it happened so quickly...I think they should have dated once or twice before deciding to go steady.
I don't think it's strange. Going one one date doesn't make you a couple. When I was a junior in college, my then-bf (now-FI), who was 28 at the time, asked me after a few dates, "What are we doing here? Are you my girlfriend?"
I don't think it's weird at all. In high school people ask the person they're "dating" to be their girlfriend because it's cute (most highschoolers don't actively go on dates with multiple people). Whereas in college it is completely acceptable to go on a date with one person one day and a different person the next. If no one clarifies whether they're boyfriend/girlfriend yet, then for all they know the other person is still actively dating other people.
I don't think I've had someone actually ask me "will you be my girlfriend?" since I was in high school, but any guy I dated while in college (including fi) at least had the "exclusive" and/or "we're bf/gf now" conversation at some point.
Fi and I dated for 3 months before we were "official". Those last 2 months we were spending so much time together I don't think I would have had the time to date other people, but during the first month he wasn't the only person I "went on dates" with.
PS - there was a guy I dated before I was with fi that was super indecisive like the guy you're sister is with, and as soon as he decided he even wanted to date me, he wanted to be exclusive, so what's going on with your sister isn't unheard of. I used to joke that he was a perfect Katy Perry song ("you change you mind like a girl changes clothes") hahaha, and after he did decide he wanted to be with me it didn't last long. I was just kind of already over it from the months of him changing his mind all the time.
That was a few years ago, and we're still friends but he's lonely as hell and openly admits he's jealous of how my love-life turned out. Sucks for him, maybe he shouldn't have played games with me for months before he decided I was worth dating...hahahaha, yes, I enjoy how this all turned out...
haha i dont find it strange, since I was the indecisive one..after 3 months of "seeing" my FI i was like..so do i get to call you my boyfrined now? he was like i've been waiting for this for months.
My FI told me shortly after we started dating (like after 3 or 4 dates), "I like you. Like want to make you my girlfriend, like you." Not only was FI super cute when he said this, but I felt the same way about him.
I was off and on dating 3 other guys at the time I started dating FI. None of them were exclusive relationships, obviously, and they weren't really looking like they would become exclusive relationships ever (I had been dating the one for almost 8 months, but just dating with no talks of the relationship moving forward). I understood FI's comment to mean he wanted to date me exclusively. I told the other 3 guys the next day that I had found someone I was interested in pursuing an exclusive relationship with, and broke it off with them.
I don't have much experience to go by (FH & I started dating when I was 15 in 2002 and I only had one "boyfriend" before him), but he asked me if I "wanted to make it official." We were both in high school, though, and that was perfectly normal. Couldn't tell you about college, but I wouldn't think it would change, since a lot of things seem to carry over. lol. If they think it's normal in high school, why would that suddently not be normal a year or a few later for them?
I think a lot of people wait for the "offical" status chage to bf/gf. Especially when you are younger, and dating aroung, that happens as the official signal that you're exclusive. I always played by the "we're exclusive or else we're not seeing each other" rule, since the thought of someone I was on a date with also dating multiple other people always skeeved me out. Luckily, my now husband was the same way :-)
One of my sorority sisters ex's asked her to be his GF offically. He basically proposed to her!!! Took her to dinner and afterwards to a gazebo on the beach, gave her gifts and flowers, and asked. He even had someone take pictures. I thought this was so odd. It was more than just asking to be his GF IMO, but I don't think asking to be exclusive is strange.
I remember when DH asked me 'out' he said "I was wondering if you would like to go out with me...like on a date" and put his hands over his mouth like a scared little boy. Haha I thought what a dork, but I already was in love with him lol so I said yes.
I wouldn't call it strange to be communicating clearly & dispelling any confusion about the situation.
In my experience adults usually have a discussion about being mutually exclusive at some point, the language just varied to "girlfriend/boyfriend" in this conversation. :)
When FI and I first started dating he asked me to be his girlfriend...like "Will you be my girlfriend". Granted we were 18 and 19, I thought it was very sweet since the couple of guys that I dated in the year before him never made things that obvious (to the point that I honestly had to have a discussion with one of the guys as to where things were going, if we were able to date other people, etc.).
I don't think it's all that weird simply because terminology and progression of relationships is all over the place nowadays. There's no one way it's supposed to happen. Also, does she go to a smaller college? I did and since there weren't that many people there wasn't that much dating around. People pretty much did decide early on if they were gf/bf (or gf/gf or bf/bf) and were upfront about it.
After college, living in NY it was a totally different story, though. Tons of dating, and when we finally did become gf/bf, it was hilarious.
Fiance: you know how in the cold war, the soviets and americans both had large nuclear arsenals they kept on hand simply in case the other country used theirs.
Me: Um, mutually assured destruction, yeah. I know that.
Fiance: And how we're dating other people? I think we should begin bilateral disarmament.
So, yeah, there are WAY weirder ways of doing this. ;)
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Ok... this isn't about me it's about my younger sister. After a month of this guy trying to decide if he wants to date or just be friends he finally asked her out on a date. So I get a text from her and that says "indecisive boy finally asked me out!" and i'm like yeah you went on date doesn't asking you on a date imply he asked you out. And she said 'no he offically asked me to be his girlfriend." Anyone else find this a little weird???