- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Some of you may have been following my alterations/dress regret journey so you know that I have struggled with dress regret and major alterations anxiety for over 6 months now. I am happy to say that I went to my final fitting and my dress regret is finally GONE! I am officially back in love!
But I had a LOT done – a complete transformation of the dress. Here’s what I paid to have done:
1. Lower neckline
2. Lower back
3. Complete shape-change to mermaid style
4. Add cups and remove boning at bust to make it less pointy
5. Remove bottom part of corset so as not to show through dress
6. Add custom ordered lace buttons down the back
7. Add curved angle sparkly belt (sewn onto dress)
8. Double french bustle and hem (and some taking in and out at the waist)
I thought I’d share my story for those of you who are going through something similar, to show that alterations CAN turn things around for you if you’re willing to spend the money. For me, it was my only option because my mom would NOT have tolerated me getting a second dress and we got into huge fights every time I even barely mentioned disliking my dress. She would say that all I care about was myself and that I’m too picky, too hard to please, and selfish to care so much about a dress I’m only going to wear for a few hours. I sucked it up, dished out a TON of $$$ on my own, and decided to go the route of major, COMPLICATED alterations to completely transform my dress. Most of the way though the alterations process, I was unhappy because I felt like I had messed with the dress too much and had ruined it. But my seamstress (Gloria from Mon Amie) was amazing and she really came through in the end!
So here we go from the very beginning. This was me the day I put down the deposit. The dress looked beautiful, but I was clipped into a size 12 (I am a 0-2). I saw no bunching, no pointy cups…..only thing was that it was more of an A-line but I was told it would be tighter fitting when it came in my size. I had to admit, I fell in love with the sparkly lace. It’s unlike most beaded laces, in that it’s a really high quality, thick lace with tiny crystals and pearls. The satin layer underneath is rich and luxurious too.
Next, is when the real dress regret started. Here is the day my dress arrived in my size. Totally weird bunching at the hips, pointy and unflattering cups, and not tight around my butt like I had been promised! I was so disappointed!
I started to strongly consider selling my not-yet altered dress to get the Enzoani Dakota instead. The Dakota wasn’t sparkly but the fit was so flattering. I ended up going back to my salon where they actually tied me into the corset and showed me how I could alter it to a mermaid:
After a huge fight with my mom, and some convincing from my best friend that the lace on my dress was WAY nicer than the Enzoani Dakota, I decided to keep my dress and go the alterations route. I still fantasized about the Dakota all the time and hated my dress but at that point, I felt I had no other choice. I had my first fitting in February where my seamstress pinned me up and I actually liked my dress again! I had lost some weight so the bunching was gone and I even picked out an amazing belt that day which made the dress look so much prettier:
Second fitting – she had taken it in at the waist which made my back hips look HUGE! I know I’m skinny but look at the below photo of my hips and then look at the photo above (with the bustle) which was before she took it in:
Still second fitting – at least the front was looking better though….I’m still pinned up here because the mermaid wasn’t tight at all:
You can see here though, that the bunching was back:
At least my veil looked good that day!!
I knew I wouldn’t be able to maintain the weight I was at, at my second fitting so I asked her to let it back out. Also because I hated how my hips looked from the back now.
So here is my third fitting. OMG so many things wrong! The neckline was WAY too lowered and she changed the “v” shape to a weird “U” shape! The bust was now gaping off me:
She also had not made the mermaid any tighter even though I was pinned up last time! It was as if she just took out the pins from the second fitting and decided not to do it:
The back was now lowered which looked pretty good…but it was just ok at best.
At this point, I was overwhelmed with sadness and dress regret to the fullest. I was so upset that after all the money I had spent on alterations, I still wasn’t happy with my dress AT ALL and it was my third fitting already! I felt resentful towards my mom because if she wasnt’ so difficult, I could have just gotten something else before I started alterations. I started fantasizing about other dresses once again, and basically gave up on feeling excited about putting on my dress on the big day. I just felt ugly, sad, and embarrassed to show anyone my dress. I was ashamed of how it was going to look on my wedding day. I had basically given up hope once I realized that I had less than a month till my wedding and no money or no explanation for mom to get another dress. I was dreading my final fitting but hoping for the best.
THEN – I finally went to my final fitting, nervous as hell. This was my LAST chance to speak up and have something fixed if it still didn’t look good. I felt sooo much pressure and a dreading feeling that I would still hate my dress. I was beginning to think that my dress was just not meant to be a tight mermaid shape.
But I am so happy to say, that my seamstress WORKED A MIRACLE and really came through for the end result. She had fixed everything! The neckline was back in a “V” shape, the mermaid was TIGHT and sexy, the bust cups were added, the lace buttons and bustle done…I don’t know what she did but I slipped that baby on and BAM! Perfection! I finally felt glamourous, sexy, classy, and STUNNING in my gown for the first time ever and I am SO relieved!
Here it is – the FINAL product!!
What do you guys think??? Pretty huge transformation right???