Post # 1
It’s weird to see it so official.
I’m pretty good with it (I should be, it’s been over two months since the wedding! lol) but I know my mom is going to have a crying fit.
On the day of my wedding, my husband’s grandma kept telling my mom things like, “she’s ours now, she’s no longer a _________” and my mom did not take it very well. She said she cried herself to sleep every night during my honeymoon :(.
Even my sister started crying the day after the wedding, saying, “You don’t have the same last name as me :(“.
Sigh. Anyone else not look forward to the emotional reactions of family?
Post # 3
Nobody reacted that way. Everyone was just excited for us. 🙂
Sounds like his grandma was just excited to have you in her family now. 🙂
Post # 4
WTF? No, no one even cared. I changed it, and it was like no big deal to anyone in my family. And I would rebutt with “I am not owned by anyone not the ____ or the ____ a name is just that”
Post # 5
Crying herself to sleep and then telling you about it? Uhhhmmm.. sounds super melodramatic. When FI’s mom is throwing one of her tantrums she tells him she’s been crying herself to sleep.
Post # 6
I changed mine on FB a few days after the wedding. Only that long cause I stayed off it that weekend and for a few days.
No one in my family was upset or had… any reaction. In fact when I posted about having to wait in line forever to get a new driver’s license my aunt commented “Isn’t it fun to change your name? Especially when it was Smith!” I don’t have any sisters, so… I guess now I don’t have the same name as my SIL. In fact my other SIL didn’t take my BIL’s name so I don’t share a last name with anyone but my husband and his parents & brother. Fine with me. 🙂
Post # 7
i’m rather excited about changing my name and my mum is too, my mum remarried (hopefully 3rd times a charm) a few years ago to a man with the same surname as my FI. it has been 24 years since i had the same surname as my mum… so i’m looking forward to it 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
My brother comments a lot. It’s all in fun, but I do think he’s a little sad (even though my maiden name is my second middle name, legally). I went with him to buy a new car (I had nothing better to do), and I was his reference. He said it’s still so weird that my last name isn’t his. Then he added his wife’s info and said, “she’s a (my maiden name).” It’s tough. It’s really tough.
It is sad that your mom cried herself to sleep and told you about… but it’s an adjustment for the whole family. Give her some time…
Post # 9
It’s just a name – it doesn’t mean you aren’t still part of your family. I know getting married is a big transition for everyone including family members, but it’s really not the end of the world. You don’t all of a sudden stop being the person you were 24 hours before.
Post # 10
I didn’t change my last name. lol. I think my MIL doesn’t love that, but as long as her grandchildren have my husband’s last name, I think she’ll be ok. lol