Post # 1
Even though I am doing the DW we are legally tieing the knot this Saturday for mulitple reasons, the thing is, it hasn’t hit me. At all. I feel like a cold hearted B. I would say I’m not even excited. Don’t get me wrong, I love my FI, he is the most amazing person and hands down the best thing that ever happened to me.
Back story: Had big wedding planned in 2009, lost job had to cancel. I was depressed for about a year after while I went to 6 weddings. I have several adult family members I am taking care of and my job has become really stressful with our new controller making waves.
So is this normal? I just feel like I am going through the motions.
Post # 3
I think you’re totally normal. There’s been alot going on and you’ve had to focus on other things.
I’m sure when the moment comes it will hit you!
Post # 4
I am so sorry to hear that! I think it is pretty normal – we’re still awhile out, but I honestly feel so bad when people ask me if I’m excited because some times I am just not. I think when you think about the fact that you’re going to be married for so long, sometimes for me it already feels like I am. So nothing would change.
I have a friend who about a month out from her wedding discovered that she didn’t even find her FI attractive anymore. I think it was just stress because she went through with it and feels so in love right now.
Post # 5
Under the circumstances, what you are feeling is TOTALLY normal. As happy as you are to be marrying your fiance, it also drives home that it’s not the way it was originally planned. As long as you can hold yourself open to the experience, you might find that it’s more special than you imagined. But don’t force it – you are where you are. That’s ok.