- Boston Bee
- 7 years ago
As much as I try to deny it and try to play it cool, I am a lady in waiting. So it’s time for me to officially join you other waiting bees!
I’ve been around the hive for 1.5 years, but I feel like there’s such a high turnover rate of bees that I should probably introduce myself to those that don’t know me. I found the hive when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my cousin’s wedding and helping her do some research. I was also in a serious relationship, and we had talked about getting married, but our relationship was rocky at the time. We broke up about a year ago, but I stayed poking around the hive. I met my SO about 9 months ago, and I knew about 5 months in that he was “the one.” In my other relationship, we talked about spending the rest of our lives together, but every day was a struggle. We didn’t communicate well, and towards the end, everything about him bothered me. All of those troubles just disappeared with my SO now. After a week, I felt like I had known him my whole life, and we just compliment each other so well. Things are really great.
The only thing that scares me about our future is that we’re going to be turning into a LDR couple in August. About 2 weeks after I met him, I accepted a job as a law clerk to a federal judge about 1.5 hours away from where we now go to law school (he graduates 2 years after me). My job is only for 2 years, so in 2013, we’ll both be relocating at the same time, which is nice. But I am worried about those 2 years. We see each other everyday and never spend a night apart, so I know it’s going to be a huge adjustment, and neither of us has ever done a LDR. But it’s only 1.5 hours away so we’ll see each other every weekend (hopefully).
We talk pretty generally about our future right now, so there is definitely no timeline in place or anything like that. We’ll just talk about where we want to live once we can move in together and where we want our careers to go. We have talked about marriage too, like if I would change my name and where we would have the wedding, but I try not to talk about it because I know an engagement probably won’t come until 2013. We actually looked at rings once too (kind of joking, but kind of not).
But we just booked a cruise as a graduation present for me in May, and what was one of my first thoughts? “Oh, I know it’s really unlikely, but wouldn’t it be nice if he proposed on the cruise?” lol. I know it’s more realistic not to expect a proposal until 2013, but a girl can dream, right? haha. And I don’t want him to think I’m obsessed with getting married (I promise, I’m not), so if I ever feel frustrations about waiting, I’ve decided just to come vent to you ladies!