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Check out TheKnot.com and WeddingWire.com and other websites to see if there are any officiants in your area.  If you have any friends who are recently married and not in a church, ask them for reccomendations.  Your venue may also have some suggestions for officiants. 

I was trained at the Celebrant Foundation - you may also want to check with them to see if there are any Celebrants in your area who could create a custom ceremony for you - http://www.CelebrantInstitute.org

Good luck!! Finding an officiant is hard, but it's worth the time and effort to find someone who you and your fiance are super comfortable with and excited to have perform your wedding ceremony.

I'm struggling with this too! The hardest part is that it takes a lot of talking to people and meeting them, etc.  I'm so worried that we'll choose someone and then the vibe won't be right, it's so personal!  It feels really weird to basically hire a vendor to marry us...

Marinara, have you found someone yet?  Speaking as a wedding officiant AND as a bride who struggled with finding the right officiant for my fiance and I, it is tough, but it's worth it to spend some time on.  I spoke with a few officiants on the phone, and could usually tell if it was worth meeting with them or not.  We ended up meeting with two officiants - one did not mesh with my fiance at all, and the other was the woman who is going to be marrying us.

A good wedding officiant will be able to find the personal elements you want in your wedding ceremony, and work closely with you to make sure it's the perfect ceremony you are looking for.  And, I know this sounds crazy, but it's kind of like when you put on the right wedding dress - you'll walk away from your meeting excited for your wedding, with a clear vision of your wedding ceremony, and a clear connection with the officiant. 

It's daunting but worth it!! Good luck!!