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Hi Bees!

FI and I are not religious and found somebody on the internet to perform our wedding. We've communicated a lot by email and met once to go over preliminary details, but we're planning from out-of-state so we don't have a close relationship with this person.

That being said, we would really like to invite her to the rehearsal dinner and reception. We informally let her know a couple of months ago that she'd be invited to the rehearsal dinner but we'd like to follow up with a formal ceremony/RD invite. Here's the catch: We're not sure if she's married, or how to go about addressing her invitation! We don't want to put "and guest," either. Should I email her to ask? I feel strange doing it, but she's very laid back and would probably be ok with it.

Does anybody have any suggestions as to how we should ask this? Or should we just address it to her?

Thanks!

P.S. Hive Hostesses, feel free to move this to the "invitations" or "etiquette" subsection.

Well, she's a Reverend. (We're having a civil ceremony, but she performs all kinds.) And if she was married then I'd put "Reverend Susie and Mr. Joe Guest," right?