Post # 1
My FI live in FL, we’d like to have my FI’s uncle (who is an ordained minister in Washington DC). I believe this can be done – my question is, considering he is family, do we still make some type of donation? We are paying a large fee for use of a historic church/reception hall.
Post # 3
I have no idea about a donation, but make sure it’s legal. My uncle is a minister who lives and practices in NY, but we got married in NH. He had to apply for a special license. It had nothing to do with religion (neither did our wedding) — it was all legal stuff.
Post # 4
@peachacid: In Florida, all you need is a notary to sign your marriage license – and we know a ton of notaries (who will be attending). Worst case is I’ll just have one of them sign the license for us. 🙂
Edited to add: I just confirmed that the only out of state officients that can sign the certificate or *ordained* ministers, which he is. 🙂
Post # 5
You should probably still give a small donation to his church if not directly to him.
Post # 6
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Ok, “technically” your Officiant is a Vendor… someone that provides a service… Even if he’s a Relative (Friendor). He has taken courses etc to prepare himself for this career etc, he is qualified, and DESERVES to be paid.
It is RUDE to take advantage of one’s position just because they are a Relative.
If you were an Electrician, Plumber etc.. would you be expected to give free help / advice.. time & effort to ALL your Relatives just because you have a viable trade that others want to access ??
Uh no. You’d want to be paid too for services performed.
So yes you need to make a Financial Contribution towards him… and the service that HE PROVIDES (as per Market Rate)
(I take it from your post that he is from Out Of State… the Venue is in Florida. The Venue Costs no matter how large are seperate… They are for the Venue. You’d pay an Officiant you didn’t know to marry you… so it should be for this person & their generous offer. As I was married in Florida, I can tell you that the “going rate” was between $ 200 and $ 500. You should make your “Gift in Kind” in an Evelope and give it to him at the end of the Ceremony… actually have the Bestman give it to him. If he accepts it is up to him… he may very well tell your BM that it is a GIFT… BUT that is his CHOOSING not yours.)
Hope this helps,
PS… As per Etiquette, an Officiant (and their spouse if applicable) should also be invited to the Rehearsal Dinner & the Wedding. Just so you know.