Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - old theatre and fancy hotel
I am feeling a little guilty that we are not having a pastor marry us. I was raised a devout protestant, and so was my fiance, but neither of us see church/religion as a part of our lives any longer. We have a non-denominational/non-religious officiant.
I feel like my parents and his will be disappointed.
Did anyone feel the same guilt?
Post # 3
If you feel guilty, are you sure thats what you really want?
Post # 4
@beeayeyeelelwhy: I don’t feel guitly, per se, but I think I understand where you are coming from. I was raised Catholic and while I would love to have a wedding in a Church for the traditional aspects, and because it was how my parents and grandparents were married, I would feel like I was at best misleading a Priest, and at worst lying while taking a holy sacrament. I am no longer a practicing Catholic and consider myself to be agnostic, but I still respect and appreciate religion- which is precisely why I cannot have a religious ceremony. I’d feel like a hypocrite. I think if you are sure it is not right for you to get married by a pastor, then you just have to be secure in your reasons why. It doesn’t mean you don’t respect your upbringing, and maybe there is a way for you to incorporate a prayer or hymn that has meaning to your family (for instance, I’ve thought of using the song Ave Maria in our wedding for that reason), or have a moment for you religious relatives to bless you.