(Closed) OFFICIANT : How to Ask?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

A close friend of ours is marrying us. We had him over for drinks one night and after he had a few we asked him… “Would you marry us?” There was also a joke about getting ordained as a Jedi minister somewhere in there… lol

I think an email would work well, but it might be nicer to ask in person. Could you arrange to have dinner with him, your Dad, you and your FI? Then you could formally ask him and brainstorm about the details.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can your dad ask him? Since its your dad’s friend it wouldnt be hard for him to discuss it

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just a suggestion for the “different” religious views – FI and I are being wed by a friend of my father’s who is a rabbi.  I had met her many times and loved her, and even though I wasn’t raised religiously AT ALL, I liked the idea of having some Jewish traditions in our wedding.  But it has been a little bit of a struggle working out the kinks, especially for FI, coming from a raised-Catholic-now-hates-every-religion background.  So I would send this friend an email or make a phone call, and basically say that you’d love his help but want to make sure he’d be comfortable officiating a ceremony that was in line with your views.  That way he has an out, and you’ve gone into everything openly.

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