Post # 1
We are going to take up an offer presented by my dad’s friend to officiate our wedding. Even though he has not offered this service to us directly, he’s mentioned it a few times to my dad.
We would like to take him up on this gracious offer.
So my question is: How do I go about writing up an email to ask him if he’s still interested in doing this for us?!
– We of course plan to offer him and his guest/date a meal/seat!
– And plan to give him a nice gift in lieu of his services!
I just figured in this email I could stress that we are of “different” religious views, and hopefully he is ok with that. And tell him some of our other ideas/plans for the ceremony.
Has anyone had this situation before or gone about something like this?!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you Beautiful Bees!
Post # 3
A close friend of ours is marrying us. We had him over for drinks one night and after he had a few we asked him… “Would you marry us?” There was also a joke about getting ordained as a Jedi minister somewhere in there… lol
I think an email would work well, but it might be nicer to ask in person. Could you arrange to have dinner with him, your Dad, you and your FI? Then you could formally ask him and brainstorm about the details.
Post # 4
Can your dad ask him? Since its your dad’s friend it wouldnt be hard for him to discuss it
Post # 5
@PrairieGirl: great idea! Maybe I will just invite him over to the next family BBQ or dinner! =) Might be easier to discuss within a group/relaxed setting!
@bells: as easy as that would be, I just would rather take the initiative. My dad’s already done me the favor of passing the message, thats more than I could ask for. Plus my dad is not very detail oriented! LOL! =)
Post # 7
Just a suggestion for the “different” religious views – FI and I are being wed by a friend of my father’s who is a rabbi. I had met her many times and loved her, and even though I wasn’t raised religiously AT ALL, I liked the idea of having some Jewish traditions in our wedding. But it has been a little bit of a struggle working out the kinks, especially for FI, coming from a raised-Catholic-now-hates-every-religion background. So I would send this friend an email or make a phone call, and basically say that you’d love his help but want to make sure he’d be comfortable officiating a ceremony that was in line with your views. That way he has an out, and you’ve gone into everything openly.