Post # 1
I knew it was coming. I had been putting off this call for awhile because I knew how it would probably end. Today I called a potential officiant. I was raised a Chrisitan and would love to have a Minister officiate. After the standard, date, time, what Church you raised in came the question I was dreading……”What church did your fiance attend as a child”? *sigh* He was raised a Jehovah’s Witness. Then came the pause, stammering, and the “I’m not sure how I would feel about marrying ya’ll”. I figured this would be an issue early on (being I live in the bible belt), but I guess I still needed to make this call to do what I originally intended would be best—find a Justice of the Peace or freelance officiant. I’m not upset and totally respect his views it just sucks knowing this is pretty much the standard where I live. This isn’t a rant or emotional vent guess it just bothered me a little and just plain sucks:(
Post # 3
I’m sorry you have to deal with that 🙁
I lived down South for a few years and it’s eons different than it is here in NY. We had our meeting with our officiant this weekend and I was glad that he pointed out in the ceremony where it says “marriage between and man and a woman” that he can change it to say “marriage between two people” so as not to offend any LGBTQ guests…I was surprised that he was so open-minded that he brought up the same-sex marriage topic himself (hopefully some day it won’t even be something to discuss).
Anyway, I’m sorry. I am sure you can find one truly open minded officiant that can work with you. It makes me sad when I hear “Christians” shut the door on others especially because of their past…look around more–try the Protestant church and see if they are a little more flexible. Also, I see you’re in Georgia, if you are near Atlanta I’ll bet they are more open minded there as it’s more urban. The more rural usually the more conservative. Good luck.
Post # 4
Aw, I’m sorry OP. That makes me sad that someone is so close minded. Keep looking. There has to be someone who is a willing and would be honored to marry you both. It’s not like your FI is an ax murderer or something.
Or if it’s legal in GA, could you have a dear friend/relative officiate? Our good friend was ordained online and will marry us. It means a lot to have someone we really care about do something so important.
Post # 5
Thanks for “listening” ladies. .
@iheartsquishy: Lol no he is definitely not a murderer. One of the sweetest people you’d ever meet which is ironic seeing that the officiant said, “Well I live by a couple who are Witnessess and they are some of the sweetest people…..” before dropping the axe, lol. My brother actually got ordained for my mom’s ceremony, but he said he would rather leave it up to the professionals. He was pretty nervous and there was only like 15 of us then.
@sehrler: Although I do live near Atlanta the ceremony is 2 hours away in a very rural part. I think I will look into an officiate possibly traveling from here.