Officiant may or may not be available!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@Zavrazen:  What does your contract say?

If you can contact your old pastors, go ahead and ask.  They might be able to step in.

And not sure why you don’t want a female officiant…?

Post # 4
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That sucks that he would do that to you so close to the wedding. I went through a similar situation where we had hired a JP to do the wedding ceremony and then 3 weeks before I found out he was not going to do the rehearsal which was a deal breaker for me. I did some quick google searching and found a woman reverend to do the ceremony AND rehearsal, was able to meet with her beforehand, and she did an amazing job, I was sooo happy that we used her instead of the original JP. Do some searching, contact your priests, and see what you can find out – it may end up even better than you thought!

P.S. At first I was also not-wanting a female officiant because I was raised catholic and there are no female priests. Since our wedding wasn’t in a church anyways, and she was a reverend I went with her, and am so happy I did!

Post # 5
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Zavrazen:  Did he give a good reason why he won’t be available?  Most contracts say something about what will happen if an emergency occurs or they are unavailable, ours said that they would contact three alternatives to find a replacement and then… well, they’re kind of off the hook.


P.S. I kinda hope you get stuck with the “female” officiant for being sexist 🙂

Post # 6
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Can he at least put you in contact with the alternate?  Even if you can’t meet in person a phone call or even skype chat would help you get to know them and feel more comfortable with them.  If you don’t like the alternate you should contact the pastor, it can’t hurt to have a back up plan. 

It sucks that yourr offciant did this, I really hope it works out for you!

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