(Closed) Officiant – question for the hive

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ask him what church has ordained him…in CO any ordained minister or any religion can officiate a marriage, so here it’s not really something the state keeps track of, do you know the law in AZ?

Post # 5
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3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@futureMrsCPT:  If you don’t trust him, I don’t know why you’d want him to perform the ceremony, honestly. Ask to see his ordination. 

ETA: If it’s the ULC online, he wil have papers that explain his ordination. He must register with the county usually though to prove he is “clergy.”

Post # 6
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3485 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Getting ordained is about as hard as creating an account on the bee– actually, they ask less questions… 

I’d ask him who ordained him, and if he can’t provide that information, ask him to a visit a site like this:

http://www.themonastery.org/

And get ordained (literally, it takes less than a minute!)

ETA: This is what my best friend did when we asked him to be our officiant.  Also, I’m ordained ever since I was working as an event planner and their officaint showed up over 2 hours late– now I can step in and perform the ceremony should it be needed. 

Post # 7
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5429 posts
Bee Keeper

Shouldn’t he have a certificate or something that shows he is licensed? Then you can copy that and confirm with the one who licensed him.

Post # 8
Member
6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We had someone that was Ordained online marry us… BUT in FL you can’t officially get married by someone not affiliated with a church officiate or they  Had to be a JOP.  We  got married at JOP the morning of our “wedding”.  We didn’t find that out till we went for our license so you might want to ask about the laws when you go. 

We had our friend sign something, but it was just for pics.

Post # 10
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3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@futureMrsCPT:  I just would go with someone else. If he asks, say you went with someone else. I mean, this is one thing you don’t want to have to worry about the day of your wedding. 

Post # 11
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3485 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

@futureMrsCPT:  If you wanted him to reordain make up something about the clerk “insisting” on seeing his cridentials befroe they can issue you a marriage license. If he can’t produce them– just say “Hey, someone on my forum reccommended this site, you can get reordained in a minute and print out a cridential” 

 

Depending on the county you live in, it probably wont matter anyway– in many of them the only time someone would need to verify it is if they were contesting the validity of your marriage.  

Post # 12
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5429 posts
Bee Keeper

If you have doubt, I wouldn’t bother with him. I would find another officiant.

Post # 14
Member
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@futureMrsCPT:  Get a new officiant if your not too sure about this one, there’s lots of people ordained!

Post # 15
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

He should have a license that he can show you, if he can’t he can get one very easily

Post # 16
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6260 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

THIS IS IMPORTANT. I perform weddings, and where I live, if I’m not registered with the courthouse in the county that the wedding is performed in, the wedding IS NOT LEGAL. Just registering with Universal Life Church isn’t enough. You have to get a certificate of ordination (an official one, not a printed copy of the email that says you’re ordained), take it to the courthouse, get a record/book number to put on the marriage license, and THEN perform the wedding.

It may not be like this in other states, but is it really worth taking a chance on?

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