Post # 1
My wedding isn’t until April 2011 but I have already found an officiant (online, reviews have been good). He is based out of Houston (I’m in Dallas) so I have not met him. I sent him our information and he said that he’s available on that date, and he will get in touch with me at the beginning of the year (2011).
I was a little confused since I assumed we would meet much sooner than that. He is from a religious non-profit organization that only takes donations for their services so I wasn’t expecting counseling necessarily but when he said we’d talk next year, I was a little confused. Is this pretty typical? Should I go ahead and ask him for a contract? I haven’t researched any other officiants yet as his organization is the best fit we’ve found for our beliefs. What have your experiences been when dealing with an officiant?
Post # 3
I’m thinking he’s penciled you in for that date most likely because its still so far away. A lot of brides like to plan their ceremony out in detail & I’m sure he just doesn’t have time for that right now, especially if he’s a popular officiant in the area. This is wedding season! I bet you he’s taking it a day at a time!
Not to mention, a lot can happen in a year! You could move your date up, push it back, change your mind about using him as an officiant, etc. I can definitely see his point of view.
I wouldn’t ask him for a contract yet. He said he’d meet with you at the beginning of 2011, so wait until then to hash out the details 🙂
Post # 4
I think if you and your Fiance want to talk to him to find out if he’s a good fit for the two of you, you should ask to do that now. But if you’re wanting to sit down and start discussing things about the ceremony itself, there is no need to do that until the beginning of 2011.
Post # 5
He most likely added yall to his calendar. Our officiant did the same thing- we met up with him to give him the date and such- and then he said after the holidays we could get together and work on the details. Part of his reasoning was wanting us to be happy with our ceremony and we could come up with new ideas etc througout the rest of our planning.
Post # 6
I think you guys should get a feel for him over the phone, early on. You’ll get a good understanding of what he’s about without having to physically meet him. If you decide you’d like to book him, ask for a contract. They must have contracts, even if they’re a religious organization. Then when the new year hits, I’d ask to meet with him to finalize things, if that’s what would make you most comfortable.
Post # 7
That’s pretty normal…I met with my officiant when we booked him, in August 2009. The next time we’re seeing him will be later this month, and then I guess not again til the wedding!
Post # 8
Great, thank you for the feedback everyone! It just made me nervous since it seems like all our other vendors need details so far in advance! 🙂 I’ll just make sure to talk to him again in the beginning of the year.
Post # 9
PRetty normal. We booked our officiant in September of last year. We still have not actually talked with her about it. Our wedding is in September of this year.