Post # 1
I don’t know if anyone has insight into this – we hired a wedding officiant (non-religious, does this professionally). The contract doesn’t say anything about him staying for dinner. I know frequently ministers/priests stay for the dinner/reception, but do professional officiants like this tend to?
Similarly, we have a classical guitarist playing during our ceremony only (we have a different band for the reception). Again, the contract says nothing about him staying for dinner – do you think we need to save a seat for him?
Obviously the only way to know the answer to these questions 100% is by asking the respective people their intentions, but I’m just wondering if anyone can give me a little insight about what the norm is.
Post # 3
I think it is the norm to extend an invitation for dinner to those involved in your ceremony
Post # 4
I would like to know this too…..for my DJs. My ceremony band are friends of FBIL and my officiant is a long term friend of my mother, so they are all invited to eat and dance. I would assume that you would for the band for the reception but not for the ceremony artist. And the officiant….hmmm if he has another wedding, then no? lol Sorry Im not help.
Post # 5
I wondered the same thing and posted on here a few months ago. I was told its nice to extend the invite but if they aren’t close friends, they most likely won’t stay. I ended up just asking mine outright. She is not staying…she will take off soon after the cocktail hour.
That said, we didn’t know the minister at my first wedding and he stayed for dinner.
I think you should just ask.
Post # 6
yeah, we of course are having meals for our planner, photographers, videographers, and the reception band, but I just wasn’t sure if the officiant and ceremony musician would be planning to stick around… I don’t have a problem if they do, I just need to know how to plan
Post # 7
@ferdie224: I would invite as a courtesy but you may be turned down.
I think when it comes to things like this it is totally up to you. My first wedding I would have been hurt if the officiant had not stayed because he was my youth pastor. However, I do not expect the hired officiant to go out to eat with us after our DW.