- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
We are getting married at a church and chose one of the Pastors at the church to perform the wedding ceremony. So with all the stress of planning the wedding, picking flowers, invitations, and choosing dresses..etc. I have been having getting stressed over scheduling marital counseling with the officiant. In order for us to get married at my church we have to attend a 3 day weekend long pre-marital weekend that has to be done before they can even officially place our wedding on the calendar at the church! That is sepereate from the 5 marital counseling sessions we have to attend with the pastor who is marrying us. Each session she gives us homework and we discuss things and it is very informational about each other.
At this point we have only met with her 2 times and that is primarily because of her limited office hours. I work school hours so I get off work at 3pm and can meet shortly after that during the week but my FI works Sunday-Thursday 9-5 pm and has Fridays off. The only day that he has off work she doesn’t work, Her office hours are from 9:00am-4:00pm and the last time we met with her at 4:30 she complained that we had her working after her normal hours, but it was the only time we could meet.
So last week my FI took off work on Sunday and we scheduled to meet with her between morning and second service. She emailed us on Friday to let us know that she forgot that she had a family reunion and wouldn’t be able to meet with us. I was annoyed because her office hours are so limited and that when my FI actually was missing work so that we could meet with her and then she has the nerve to cancel! So I emailed her and told her that I wanted to see if anyone else at the church had better office flexibilty to meet with us for out pre-marital counseling. She sent me an email apologizing for double booking but asked if we could meet another time.
I’m not really mad anymore, but just wondering if I should try to get another officiant or just stick with her since we only have 3 more sessios to meet up with her.
Has anyone else had experiences with Officiants having limited availability to meet for pre-marital counseling?