- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
So, our officiant "Bill" is actually just a friend of ours who is ordained through the Universal Life Church (that church that lets anyone become ordained). The actual process of having him be our officiant has been very smooth, but there’s one thing I’m a little worried about.
While we were talking via AIM the other day about the ceremony, he says "I need to find a date for your wedding."
Enter panic. Invitations have just gone out, and he may not have received his yet. It just says "Bill Lastname," with no mention of guests or +1’s. Bill recently broke up with his girlfriend of about a year, and since we only met her once and it was a sort of brutal breakup, she was easily crossed off the list.
We had to cut actual relatives out of our guest list to afford it, so we’re not keen on having people we don’t know attending. My response to his statement was, "a date?"
*hoping that gets the message across without being jerky about it*
Bill says "yeah, a chick."
I joked that he could go with another mutual single friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend, because she "is invited."
So he says, "haha, yeah."
So my question is, should I bring up the topic again, or wait until I know he plans to bring someone? I honestly don’t think he’ll find a date and drag her 200 miles in a van with a bunch of our other friends, but now I’m worried about it.
He’s officiating for us in exchange for just the gas money to get here, so I’m hesitant to lay down a bunch of demands.
Should I just let it go, tell him myself, or let a mutual friend do it?