Post # 1
In starting our search to find the perfect person to marry us, I am having some sticker shock!! The quotes we’re getting have been $400-$500.. goodness! I wasn’t expeciting that! I’ve tried 3 Mayors (since they can’t charge a fee, it’s part of their civil duty), with no luck.. they either never respond or respond once & that’s the last I hear from them. What the heck..
For those who were not married in a church, where did you find the person who married you, and how much did you pay??
Post # 3
I searched online for JPs. Mine was $50 for a standard ceremony, or a custom ceremony starting at $150. We are going the custom route, and it will probably cost us about $250 total. I wouldn’t pay more than that for 30 minutes! Keep looking there’s got to be someone cheaper out there!
Post # 4
What about having a friend or family member do it? One of our friends was able to get a ordained online (he didn’t disclose how much he paid for that, but it never expires apparently!) and paid a $25.00 license fee to the state we are getting married in. He’s considering that a wedding gift to us. 🙂
Post # 6
Our friend got ordained. We got him a gift so total cost was $130.
Post # 7
Yes, definitely look into having a friend or family member ordained!
My husband’s childhood and life-long friend was our officiant. (He’s ordained and a lawyer, as well.) He did an AMAZING job. Just blew us all away. Because he’s known my husband so long and been such a great friend to us, he was able to bring the perfect balance of personality, humor, and intimacy to our ceremony that no one else would have. He met with us prior to our wedding day specifically to discuss our vision and preferences for our ceremony, and was present at our rehearsal. As thanks we treated him to a nice meal, made sure to invite him to our rehearsal dinner, and also gave him the same gifts we presented to our groomsmen. Otherwise, he officiated our wedding at no cost!
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice ladies! I don’t really have anyone in mind I’d want to get ordained and marry us.. and for someone reason I almost prefer the idea of someone we don’t know marrying us. I think I will look in the Justice of the Peace, I didn’t think of that before!
Post # 9
We searched Weddingwire and found someone. We met with her and we clicked very well! We’re paying $200.
Post # 10
We searched a couple of different websites but primarily used Google as we had some very specific criteria for our officiant— mainly non-religious ceremony and let me tell you how many of those “non-religious” officiant webpages came up with a ton of religious symbols and quotes on them 🙁
At any rate, we are paying our officiant $400 which seems to be the middle of the range here in DC; for that fee, she is writing a custom ceremony for us although she did start it out with a template. If we had gone with no customizations it would have been $250. We are also paying an extra $100 for a rehearsal.
I too was kind of shocked at how much this would end up costing but in the grand scheme of things, I think we are getting our money’s worth and then some; it’s one of the smallest line items on the budget and she’s putting a ton of work into it!
FWIW we are also paying for her dinner and asked her to invite her partner as our wedding is on a boat that will be out in the river for 4 hours and we felt really bad about keeping her captive the whole time!
Post # 11
If you can find a friend or family member that can carry themselves well, that agree with becoming Ordained. Then that is the cheapest. However, you may just be looking in the wrong places for an Officiant. I would look on WeddingWire, OneWed, Wedplan or Momentville for an Officiant.
It depends on what you want in an Officiant. I know price is always one aspect, so are professionalism, personality, ability and your comfort level with the person. So explore all your options and decide for yourself.
Post # 12
@RevMic: Thanks for the suggestion of places to look, I was just using Google. I will look into those sites!
Post # 13
our original officiant was a referral from our venue. She charged $350 for ceremony and rehearsal. We’ve since fired her. (issues regarding her lack of professionalism, not her price lol)
Our current officiant got really good reviews on the Knot. He charges $275.00 for ceremony and rehearsal. We’ll be paying him more because he’s pretty far away and is going to be spending a ton on gas.
Post # 14
FINALLY heard back from the Mayor I was originally wanting to marry us–his wife is my mom’s boss, so they were already invited to the wedding.. He said he WILL marry us, and he put it on his calendar! YAY! Best part, it’s free!
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Post # 16
@WillyNilly: well, if you insist
booked her last year. Paid half down. Got regular emails reminding us to do our ceremony stuff. . etc.
last month FI and I both received an email from someone working in her office stating our officiant “John” would not be able to make the rehearsal. We’d have to choose another date or another officiant.
hmm. . our officiant’s name was “Mary”. what is going on?
Make a long story short she made other plans for the weekend of our wedding and never told us. Not even when Fiance called her to schedule the rehearsal.
I did okay until she said “If you’re so upset about this I worry about how you handle the really important things in your life”.
at that point I’d had it. She was fired. and we got our deposit back