Post # 1
My fiance and I are not religious, but also not anti-religion, and we are not having an easy time figuring out how to find an officient.
I know a lot of people now have a friend do it, but that just doesn’t feel authoritative enough or maybe that it’s not rooted in a tradition. I would honestly love to have a judge do it, but I don’t know any judges, and judges … well, they already have other jobs.
We aren’t afraid of using someone with a faith background, by my Catholc husband-to-be is leary of a protestant-y officient (and the Catholic church won’t marry us because our ceremoney is outside).
It also doesn’t help that we don’t actually live anywhere near Austin, so we can’t spent much time with possible officients to get to know them.
I think that if we really personally liked someone, and we thought the person was sort of authoritative in his or her own right, the other problems would probably melt away.
Anyone have ideas? How are non-church goers finding officients these days?
Post # 3
I’m getting married in Austin, and we don’t live there either. We also don’t really go to church, so we are in the same boat as you. We’re getting married Chapel Dulcinea, and found out minister on their website. http://www.chapeldulcinea.com/content.asp?id=244 We have booked Rev. Harold Guess for our June wedding after meeting with him a few weeks ago. We really liked him, and he provides materials to help you personalize and allows you to write your own ceremony if you want. Good luck.
Post # 4
im still a year and a half out but i worry about being able to find an officant. im san antonio/austin area 🙂
Post # 5
sometimes your reception site can recommend someone
a family member is marrying us, but we have really enjoyed our pre-marital counseling with our Methodist pastor…we focus on the relationship, not our religion, so I don’t think it would be awkward for less religious people, or course we are both members…PM me if you are interested
Post # 6
What a small world! Like AndreaO, we are using Harold Guess for our wedding in June!! And, we don’t live in Austin either!
So we found him b/c we’re getting married at University Christian Church where he used to be a minister. We are not members of the church or anything, but we decided to have our ceremony there b/c it’s very close to our reception site – the Texas State History Museum. (And, it was important to my Future Mother-In-Law that we get married in a church.) Anyway, we’re currently taking Dr. Guess’s Life Partner classes, and they have been pretty helpful. Also, we’ve enjoyed having the chance to get to know Dr. Guess a little better! Here is a link to his website:
Post # 7
I heard that they are really good and there is a chaplain who is catholic and will perform the service outdoors.