Post # 1
I was doing so well too! After 4 days of no wedding talk, bf says “I was thinking we could talk about when you’d like to be proposed to. within 6 months ok?” and even with THAT I kept to the pact and just said “oh, that’s not my decision to make” and changed the subject.
It went on for a few more days and then Saturday hit.
We were meeting for a recently-engaged friends birthday. The couple had KNOWN eachother 4 months when he popped the Q, and we havent seen them in the few months since that happened. Of course when I saw her, we went through the usual “congrats! let me see the ring. do you have a dress? a date?”…when suddenly i hear her fiance say to my bf “So when are you going to lock down ______? You’ve got a great girl, my friend!” (**These guys have known eachothe over 25 years)
My bf said “very very soon! just working out the details. I know she’s great!”
I figured that would be the end of it, but the happy couple then started asking me (when i get engaged), where would we be doing it, what kind of reception, etc. So that was the beginnging of an ENTIRE night of comparing wedding ideas with the bride-to-be, all while shooting glances at the bf. And i havent stopped since
Not only did I fall off the wagon, it ran me over on the way by.
Help me, bees! Anyone else losing their mind? Any tips for keeping my big mouth closed?
Post # 3
No tips from me. I also have a big mouth and have spent all my downtime at work looking at the bee and other wedding related things.
On a brighter note, I have figured out ideas for my save the dates and have booked an appointment with a venue. I’m bad. The SO knows all of this though. The ring is being appraised tomorrow, so hopefully I will get it after that, but probably not until after this weekend.
Post # 4
Don’t let this other couple stress you out.
You know your SO is going to pop the question. It’s all just a matter of timing. Talking about all these wedding details shows your partner that you’re really excited for this next step in your life and now he knows you have some amazing ideas for your wedding 😉
Maybe ask how he felt about your ideas for your wedding? He might have ideas too. And if he doesn’t want to talk about it that’s okay, just hop back onto the wagon and know that he’s probably too busy to think about wedding details because he’s trying to plan the most incredible proposal ever!
Post # 5
I wish I could help but I’m just as bad as you are! Yesterday I found out that the chunk of money my BF was waiting for came in and him buying the ring we picked out is coming soon. And to top it off he asked my the exact date that my dad was coming to town because he ‘needed to talk to him about something’ o_O
Since seeing the ‘SHUT IT UP’ pack on her I have made a promise to myself that I wont bug the heck out of him with questions… yet here I am sitting on the couch looking at venues and pinning away on Pinterest. Like I said, I’m no betther than you are! lol
I say if you feel the urge to talk about anything come on here. We have to make sure that the guys don’t feel forced into doing it before they want to. GOOD LUCK!
Post # 6
@badabing88: omg, I started dying laughing when I read “not only did I fall off the wagon, but it ran me over on the way by”…I can just picture someone getting run over by a wagon…hahaha.
It sounds to me like he welcomed the discussion 🙂 Just make sure you chase the wagon and jump back on!!! You’re allowed to talk about it when he brings it up, IMHO 🙂 Good luck!! Run fast! 😉
Post # 7
@aggiemae: venue appointments?? You *are* as bad as me!!! i’ve been getting quotes for a month He’s no help, though: when i let slip i did something like that, he says “well good: by the time I propose the wedding stuff will all be in order” to which i replied “Yes, but that’s NOT HOW ITS SUPPOSED TO WORK, SIR!!” LOL
@Miss_Lala: SO funny you say that: I’ve never been the type of gal with a “vision” for her wedding…at all. He, on the other hand, has a bunch of ideas, and has “always pictured getting married at the beach.” NOT my first choice, but since I dont have a “vision” set in my heart, I feel its only right to defer to his lol
@soontobesmith87: Talking to the dad???? Lucky you!! go girl!! You’re totally right about coming here when I need a “fix”: my bf has NO idea how many times i want to pester him and decide to just look through here instead!
@kendra389: Totally agree: they need to add a clause to the official Shut It Up Pact that says “if he brings it up, you’re free to partake”.
Post # 8
@badabing88: haha you’re too funny. It sounds like you’re still doing a great job and it definitely doesn’t sound like you’re ruining anything. It will happen soon, just go back to shutting up and it will be easier to wait 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 9
Sounds like it didn’t bother him at all. Also sounds like you won’t have to wait too much longer!
I think it’s really cool that he has lots of ideas for the wedding. My boyfriend has some definite opinions when we talk about weddings too, and I love it. His stylish bachelor pad was one of the things that impressed me when we started going out, so I’m hoping he’ll want to use his good taste in service of wedding stuff.