(Closed) OH Boy here we go!!!! VENT!!!

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: What should I do???
    Call and harass people to see why they haven't booked yet! : (17 votes)
    50 %
    If they do not meet the deadline tell them that they cannot attend the wedding! : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Do not call anyone, they should call you and send back their RSVP's!! : (9 votes)
    26 %
    Suggestions.... : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    46155 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    They are adults. They have the information. they know what the deadline dates are.

    The only people I would even consider reminding are the groomsmen and I would let FI do that as they are his groomsmen, not yours.

    After the RSVP date, then you will have  to contact the non-responders like many brides unfortunately have to do.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My plan is to call people a few days after the RSVP deadline and politely ask something along the lines of:

    “Hi! It’s risingsun. We’re just trying to get a head count for the wedding. Will you be able to make it out on June 2? Thank you!”

    Post # 5
    Member
    84 posts
    Worker bee

    This is a stressful situation and I am sorry to hear that you are going through that. I would surely have my FI get in touch with his groomsmens and see if they are coming. ( oh by the way 6 weeks ago when my FI groomsmen did not book yet, and I told him to call them, he refused too, because he said they received  the invitation and the ball is now in their court to contact him, smh, he is too stuborn sometimes, but Thank God the following week they booked) 

    But anyways if your FI does not want to call them, I think you should. Then I would go ahead and call the people  who you really want to come and see if they intend on coming, just so you can put your mind to rest.

    BTW  where in Jamaica are you getting married?

    Post # 6
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    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I feel like you at times..I have to remind myself that if they’re there or not were still getting married…I’m working on another postcard to send out as a friendly reminder so we can get on with planning (I need to know what menu and chairs can we afford) Maybe you can send out an email or a facebook message as a friendly reminder

    Post # 7
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    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Oh and a lot of my friends have been saying they really want to come but it’s a money thing, people know if they wait to the last minute to book it’s usually more expensive or worse unavailable, so focus on the planning and don’t let this drive you crazy

    Post # 9
    Member
    84 posts
    Worker bee

    I feel your pain, sorry to hear that you are going through this. Hopefully some people will step up  and book soon.. Just stay focused on the positives, you have a man who loves you and even if its just you and him and 15 other people as long as you get married to the man you love, it’ll all be fine.

    Post # 10
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    1747 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m really surprised your parents, most of your family and the party have not booked. Is there something more to this story? Do your parents not approve of your impending marriage? Was there a fight? 

    The lack of communication is scary/ominous. How many people are going thus far and what exactly is not being “booked”? Rooms? Or plane tickets? What happens if they release the rooms after the deadline? Is it a popular destination that would book up fast?

    I would send a calm email explaining what happens since the deadling has been reached. After that, I would get in touch with the sanest member of your family and enlist their help with figuring out a solution.

    Lastly, are the things these people are booking very expensive? What’s your budget like? Maybe you can offer to split the room costs with them if they are finding it hard to afford. Destination weddings can get tricky.

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Oh my goodness!  Any updates?  What are your family saying?  I guess nothing because they aren’t responding??

    Post # 12
    Member
    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @June232012

    Wow! Well I’m thinking that they really do love you and it’s not personal but for some reason they are busy with life….My sisters won’t get a passport and said they aren’t going unless I or my mom pay for it, my grandmom and mom aren’t booking because they aren’t sure the wedding is happening, which those feelings are spreading to other people like a disease, and most everyone else said they didn’t rsvp because I should know they can’t come (because of money or schedules)

    I know it super hurts to feel your wedding isn’t important to the people who are important to you, especially since you give so much of yourself for their events…but I had this moment and I felt that you what, I’m making myself physically sick from the stress and I’m not handling my daily business so I have to move past this, It sucks that I can’t tell them about my wedding projects or share my excitement and plans but I’m moving on, for the good of my marriage and my sanity, me complaining has caused my guy to feel some kind of way about my family which isn’t good for our post-wedding one big happy family at events relationship..so I know i’m all over the place but I feel you, you can vent to me all you need but you can’t allow this to “rain on your parade” (for a lack of a better expression) focus on your plans and being happy about the changes to come. I really feel they will come around at the last minute and oh effin well if they don’t have a chair or a dinner (that’s what my girlfriend had to tell me) If they didn’t want to put away $5 a week to pay for the trip that’s on them, and if they have to come to your house and see wedding pictures minus them then oh well – that was their choice….When you see them at the shower just be excited about your wedding and don’t mention them booking, I bet someone will bring it up anyway..and keep inviting them, they’ll always be your family and you’ll be hurt if they’re not in your life…I know you can’t pick em but geeze family can suck…it’s amazing how much we

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