- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
Ok, so I apologize if this is long and all over the place.
Back story, fh’s mother is divorced and remarried to a man that we’re not fond of. He CAN be nice, but mostly he’s an asshole. His whole family is werid, including his sister, who is just meddlesome and awkward. Anyway, so my fh’s stepfather asked me to make a quilt for his mother’s bed as a surprise gift for her new room in an old folks home that she was being moved to and having difficulty adjusting to not having her house anymore. I think he gave me 200 bucks for it, which mostly covered materials, but it’s all good. She LOVED it. Anyway, their mother died this spring, and the family which are all really petty and ridiculous have been arguing about money and sorting who gave what and who should get back what, only the oldest brother got ‘inheritance’. FH’s stepfather asked that he get back the television he bought for her room, and the quilt. He’s not a man who collects knicknacks and ‘treasures’ he hates clutter and he’s very very wealthy so he doesn’t need anything else.
So, this sister took the quilt and then was informed that she had to give it back to her brother, and she’s been difficult about it ever since making up excuses for this and that, she brought it from the mother’s home in New Brunswick to her house in Ottawa. We were all at a family gathering after a christening a month or so ago, she had it with her, she was syrupy sweet and so friendly with us, but didn’t offer the quilt back. I didn’t get involved, fh’s mother didn’t want to get involved, so we just left quiltless.
THEN she found out she wasnt’ invited to our wedding. (we are not related, and noone effing likes her )
The sister went back to NB and took it with her and left it there, knowing full well fh’s stepfather wasn’t going to drive out to NB for a quilt. After a 4 way argument between all the siblings, she decided she was going to ship the quilt back to it’s creator (me, but, wtf, I don’t want it!) with a shipping thing where I would have to pay the shipping fees to get the quilt. Um… Anyways, so she never sent it.
Today we were at another family gathering, and she was so cold and bitchy. She spent the whole time bashing her brother (before they arrived)and how awful her family was being, how depressing her life was, how her husband had an affair, like, to people she barely knows. I made sure not to bring up any talk of the wedding because she is NOT invited, but everyone else was excitedly talking about it so it kind of came up after a while. She didn’t talk to me the whole party, until someone started asking me about wedding details, at which point she jumped in interrupting us and saying that I HAD to come take a look at her car, and she needed my expertise to see how much it would cost to fix and it couldn’t wait… just to be the center of attention, not only taking the conversation away from wedding talk, but also giving us the oppertunity to right a wrong and inviting her after all. HA! Yea, right. Anyway, so I came back inside, and all ears were waiting for my details on wedding preparations and stuff, like, I couldn’t really say I’d rather not discuss it. She spent the rest of the time glaring at me, and then she left without saying goodbye to anyone.
I have a feeling this quilt story is never going to end. Or she will lose it. Or ‘accidentally’ burn it. She’s just that spiteful.
Edit, this should probably be in family, not etiquette, although this woman is really effing etiquette challenged, lol.