- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Haha two posts in the same category in one day, mostly related to the fact that my bridesmaids are TOO nice and I don’t know how to handle it!
So my Maid/Matron of Honor has been planning my bachelorette party for a bit. She knows I hate surprises, so she’s been keeping me in the loop about what the plans are, and continually asking me for ideas because she doesn’t want to plan something that I won’t like (you know, like ‘let’s all go horseback riding. Oh, Pinkflemingo, you’re terrified of horses? Whoops.’)
So this whole time I’ve been begging her not to stress out about it; all I want is to just go out for a night on the town with the girls and get rip-roaring drunk and have a good time. Well then this morning I had a great idea suddenly — the one thing I miss since my Fi and I have gotten together is that I used to go to techno clubs a lot. You know, the whole candy-kid ridiculous getup with the striped socks and glow sticks and the works. But Fi hates those types of clubs, so since we’ve been together I’ve stopped going, mostly content to leave that as a relic of my past. But then I thought, what better ‘last hurrah’ as a bachelorette than to relive my old glory days on the dance floor?
So I emailed Maid/Matron of Honor with this idea, and she replies that oh no, that’s a great idea but she’s already got a whole party basically planned — bar-hopping in a nearby city. She’s got transportation arranged and a girl has already volunteered her house for everyone to crash at afterwards. Had I realized she was this far along in her planning, I wouldn’t have suggested my idea!
But I did, and now it’s out there. And Maid/Matron of Honor feels awful because she thinks I’m desperate to go to the techno club and will be completely disappointed by her party plan. She insists it will be VERY easy to switch over to my idea, as long as I let her know ASAP what I prefer.
Oh boy. Now we’re like two people arguing over the last piece of cake — “You take it.” “No, YOU take it!” If I say “I want to go along with what you already planned” then she’ll feel like a failure and I just took it to be nice and really preferred the techno club. And if I say “I want the techno club” then I’ll feel like a jerk for making her toss out the plans she’s already laid!
CONUNDRUM!!! Bees, what should I do?? I’m more than happy to go bar-hopping, especially since some of the b-party invitees would probably NOT be the world’s biggest techno club fans! How do I convince her that she’s not letting me down by not following through with my late-breaking idea???