Post # 1
We made one of those “I need your address” sites for our friends, and I figured I’d pass it along to our parents so that they could send it around to our relatives if they wanted to.
FI’s favorite picture of us is one where we’re kissing, and he wanted to use it for our Save the Dates. I love the picture too, but I didn’t want a picture of us kissing on people’s refrigerators for a year, so we agreed to go with a different photo for the magnets. When the address website asked for a photo, I thought it would be perfect.
My mom gets the link and immediately says that we need to change the picture. It’s distasteful, it makes her uncomfortable, she won’t send this “bedroom scene” to her family. FI and I talked about it, and said that we’d be happy to input the addresses by hand if she just wanted to collect them by email, but we’re not changing the picture.
The scandal in question:
Everyone invited (including family) has met FI and they know what he looks like. We’ll be using a more traditional picture for our STDs. It’s just a picture on a website where you type in your address so I know where to mail stuff.
Post # 3
hehe “bedroom scene” made me chuckle!
Personally I think its a really lovely pic! and see nothing wrong with it for the website!
Post # 4
@jdhall89: I see nothing wrong with the photo and you two are adults so it is your decision. Is your mother overally conservative or from a conservative culture?
Post # 5
@jdhall89: OK disclaimer: I’m in my late 40s so probably a similar age to your mother and aunts.
I think it’s a bit over the top. Many relatives may not even know what your FI looks like. So I think the STD should show your faces.
Post # 6
@bmo88: Hilariously no, not at all. Our families are quite liberal, there are many non-traditional family arrangements, and everyone is very accepting.
Post # 7
@paula1248: I appreciate the feedback! Fortunately I got to show him off at our family reunion this summer, so everyone who is invited has actually met him before. We’re sending a more traditional posed picture for our STDs as well.
Post # 8
I think it’s cute! I wouldn’t want a picture of me and FH kissing on people’s fridges for a whole year either, but I think that picture is totally appropriate for what you did use it for!
Post # 9
Lol, what’s she going to do when the officiant says, “You may now kiss the bride”?
Post # 10
@jdhall89: Lol! That sounds just like my mom. She at least pretends to be very liberal and accepting, but I hate to say it… she is a total prude. At least she knows it.
Personally, I think the picture is adorable. I know my aunts and uncles and other family would think a picture like that was cute. I think sometimes parents are just weird about things when it is their own children…
Post # 11
I think it’s a cute pic! It’s not even an open mouth, tongue everywhere kiss! It’s totally tasteful.
Post # 12
@Regina Phalange: +1 and +1000 for your username
Post # 13
@jdhall89: It actually kind of looks like he’s trying to avoid your kiss based on his body language (even though that’s not the case, I’m sure). I don’t think it’s scandalous, but I agree with PP that a picture showing both your faces would be better.
ETA: If she’s your biological mom, then I’m sure she’s done worse. 😉
Post # 15
I think it’s perfect for a web page! It’s not like you’re trying to stick your tounges down each other’s throats.
Post # 16
….I have no problem with kissing pictures, it’s not like your legs are wrapped around him with mouths wide open and tongues probing each other or anything. It’s just a kiss. I love seeing people kiss (tastefully, like in your picture). It warms my heart. More people should kiss. This world would be a better place. My 88 year old grandfather and my husband’s conservative relatives were all a-okay with kissing pictures on our website. The pictures of us kissing at the wedding got more “likes” on Facebook than any other pictures.
Also if a relative didn’t know what my fiance looked like, they wouldn’t be invited to my wedding, only close people who actually know you should be at a wedding in my personal opinion, they should have at least seen a picture via email over the years. Just my personal two cents, I know other people invite everybody they’ve ever met to weddings and anybody who shares a blood relation…
The real point is wow chillax, kissing is beautiful and this is tasteful.