(Closed) Oh…. Date/Friend Woes.. I’m Bummed :/

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it depends if either of you will be in each others weddings. It can be a lot to be in a wedding while planning your own. Especially if she’s in your wedding, it wouldn’t be fair to have yours  the weekend before, when she has a lot to do for her own. And are your friends in or OOT? It would be hard for them to fly/drive in that close together too.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you need to wait until you are engaged to really dig your heels in.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

I dealt with this with a couple different friends – 2 others getting married, same group of mutual friends.  We plotted them a few months apart:  April, June – that type of thing.  One of the ones actually ended up breaking up, so there wasn’t an issue.  One of the brides (the one that actually got married) didn’t care how close our wedding was to theirs – but, the other one did mind.

I think it just depends and you should talk to your friend and see if it matters.  Personally, I’d pad it by at least a month, if not two – after a while, all the wedding related stuff starts to smoosh together and I’d want to enjoy the events for my friend – as well as my own planning!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d say do it the month before or after for your own sanity.

Once you are engaged talk to your friend about it and see what she thinks.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@gocubbies: well my opinion is that 2 weeks is the closest it should be. If you marry first I suspect there will be unintentional jealously and quite a lot of confict. I suggest at LEAST a month AFTER her… That is my view on it anyways.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with a month. That’s how far apart my and my best friend’s weddings are, and it’s been slightly stressful, but not bad at all. Any closer and I would be beating my head on a wall.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We have friends that are getting married 2 weeks after us.  Both are in town and we don’t have that many mutual friends.  However, luckily, we’re only taking 1 week for our honeymoon so that we’ll be back in time. 

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

definitely consider honeymoons– if you have yours before, will you want to be back that quickly for her wedding? 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, I know last year when I was in a wedding, there was 4 weekends of wedding with similar groups of friends. And honestly no one minded. Especially if no one has to travel, 5 weekes before is plenty of time. She is an adult and picked her own wedding date. You are an adult and will pick yours. If people are going to compaire that is their issue. I wouldnt suggest the week before/after because HM would be an issue but beyond that, people get married everyday. And you get a day for your wedding, not a month. If you want a fall wedding have a fall wedding. If it bugs your friend so much you are getting married first…then she should put her big girl panties on and get over it, IMO.

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