Oh. Emm. Gee.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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935 posts
Busy bee

@Zhabeego:  definitely inappropiate. but hey, some people just dont know any better. 

Post # 5
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2873 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We have a couple “friend” who is young and stupid and pretty much did the same thing for their second reception.  It was a total present dig, and they basically said they expected everyone who came to the second reception to bring them a gift, even if they were at the first. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I HATE pestering about rsvps before the deadline. This is my personal pet peeve. If you’ve set a deadline, respect it and give people until then to respond. The day after the deadline, by all means, bug people.

Post # 7
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I take comfort in knowing that posts like that are probably aimed at people like me, who only check Facebook twice a year.  🙂

Post # 8
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845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Zhabeego:  My mom worked with a girl who mentioned to someone that she expected a $500 gift from everyone she invited to her wedding. Which resulted in most of her coworkers going to the ceremony and leaving, or just not going at all. People need to realize that you can’t treat people like your own personal ATM for your wedding… ugh like how can people think this is okay?!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I hate that invitations have to include an “R.s.v.p.” instruction, let alone that they have to include a deadline. Anyone reared with a sense of social propriety should know that all invitations require a reply, in the same form as the invitation was extended — mail to mail, phone to phone, facebook to facebook — as soon as you have had the chance to check your social calendar for conflicts (and if travel is involved, to check your vacation schedule and bank balance for feasibility.)

The “R.s.v.p.” and the deadline are for people who were NOT reared with a sense of social propriety. If a hostess is asking about your availability before the specified deadline, she must be assuming that you fall into the former category of guest.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@canuckandakiwi:  It was pretty unattended, not just because of that, but because a lot of the people who would have gone where not invited, or invited last minute (via text message, a day before it happened.)   They were pretty bumed out about it, and to this day do not understand why people didn’t come.

Post # 12
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would just decline the invite if people were going to be pushy like that.

Who needs it?

Post # 13
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6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hate the pestering!!! We are going to a wedding in December and we have to travel for it so we weren’t sure if we would be going until a few days before we had to send the RSVP back. DH got multiple calls and messages from his aunt asking if we were coming and his mom even called a few times to ask because his aunt called her. 

Post # 14
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Zhabeego:  I agree. I know that etiquette rules are somwhat subjective and not everyone has the same beliefs, manners, etc. but there are some things that are inexcusable. I kind of feel that if you’re old enough to throw  a wedding, get married, expect gifts, etc., you should have basic manners and know basic etiquette. I think some people just don’t care.

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