Post # 1
As brides to be we are mass marketed to like there is no tomorrow. Who knew that not only did I need chair bows, but also rhinestone buckles on the chair bows?? Hang your dress on a regular plastic hanger? BAH you must be crazy! You need a special hanger with your name craftily spelled out in wire! Alright, so I’m being a little sarcastic. Admittedly, some of these things really are nice. However, these things all add up, and quickly!
As a future bride trying to stick to her budget, here are some of the things that I’ve “given up”: full-length linens (we’re doing a double overlay “8-point” linen instead at no additional cost), renting their special chiffon/twinkle lights backdrop for our head table (honestly, just didn’t like it, seemed high-school prom-ish), ceiling draping (HOW much??).
What, if anything, did you ladies give up to keep within your budget or just to keep to your own aesthetics?
Post # 3
– We gave up on any kind of fancy uplighting. The cheapest quote was $1800, and I’m ok with dimmed lights and lots of candles for atmosphere.
– No chair covers. Our venue offers ugly banquet chairs. However, I absolutely loathe how chair covers look and can’t afford chivari. So we went down the middle and are renting nice wood folding chairs.
– Flowers. I just couldn’t justify the cost of spending hundreds or even thousands on lavish floral centerpieces that will just die. We’re doing lots of candles. My floral budget is bouquets and boutonnieres.
Post # 4
I’m giving up lavish centerpieces and just doing hydrangeas in small vases. I’m keeping the linens, chairs and dinnerware the restaurant where our reception is at provides us.
Post # 5
m (sadly) giving up a high end photographer. I do love all the artsy shots and crazy angles, but I dont love it $4000 worth.
Post # 6
@misspeanut: I think candles are a beautiful option!
@Bichon Frise: Just had to comment because hydrangeas are my favorite. If my parents had enough hydragea bushes, I’d just steal my bouqet flowers from there!
@adnama: $4000 does seem pricey, but I suppose it depends what you get with that package. I’m sure you’ll find someone in your budget that you’ll be happy with!
Post # 7
Awsome floral arrangements in Efil Tower vases. The florest quoted me a price that was the same as the cost of the reception!! WHAT?!?!?!?!
I’ve been thinking-who needs centerpieces? LOL
Post # 8
I’m giving up:
-Floor length tablecloths ($15 per table extra at my venue)
-Chair covers and sashes (not that into them)
-A flower arch (I think the oak trees make a beautiful natural arch)
-Hosted hard alcohol (we have free beer and wine. I nearly choked when I heard how much hard liquor was going to cost to host…would have like to host but not in our budget)
Post # 9
We gave up uplighting and a dance floor… of things that I really wanted
There were a few other things that I considered early on but gave up as soon as I found out the cost.. not b/c of budget but b/c I just couldn’t bring myself pay that much even if it WAS in budget…
Ceiling draping, chair covers, and all real floral items (we went with paper flowers), and pew decorations… I just couldn’t bring myself to drop money of these things. lol
Post # 10
basically everything… we had a super cheap wedding, we couldn’t even afford an actual photographer. We didn’t have flower decorations, any fancy lighting, chair covers or any of that. But oh well I guess, we are married and that is all that matters 🙂
Post # 11
–Flowers for centerpieces. I created crystal trees with curvy willow for around $12 a table!
–A+ photography BUT… I got lucky and found an amazing photographer who will work with our budget. (which is half the price of her lowest package… again I got lucky) lol
–Chair covers. Our chairs are green and that’s our main color focus so I feel like that was the best thing that could have happened to us!
-Possibly and probably ceiling drapes… this one makes me want to cry but we got $1260 for the quote to run 4 drapes from the center of the room the each corner… is it really worth THAT MUCH? ugh. Still trying to figure out if I’ll do anything for the ceiling.
–Glass dishes and cloth napkins. Our caterer can do glass for $3 a plate or plastic and the plastic are free plus they look awesome so I’ll go with free and awesome. Everythings extra even the napkins so we’ll also be going with the free paper napkins.
–A long reception. Our reception was originally going to be 6 and 1/2 hours but now it’s 5 to avoid all the added fees. This doesn’t bother me much seeing as how we would like to enjoy our hotel room and have to be up early for the drive to port.
–The bar fee. We thought we could afford this and we soooo wanted to but it’s just not going to happen and cash bar is better than no bar! They did mention they have lower prices than bars where all my guests are from and discounts since we did this extended package deal with the venue itself.
–A venue close to home. Our venue is an hour away but will cost us 1/10th of the ones in my area… plus we were able to find our own caterer! =)
It is what it is… but I’m still stuck on the ceiling… argh.
Post # 13
@cyndistar3: “But oh well I guess, we are married and that is all that matters :)” – Exactly.
@HappilyEverAfter54: The ceiling drape thing just kills me because it’s such a rip-of no matter how you look at it! In real life, I’ve never been to a wedding and said, Oh wow, that ceiling is ug-lee, hmm shoulda put draping on it!!
Seriously, I think some of these things, floor-length linens, ceiling draping, and a few other decor, were commonly included with the venue. I feel like in the last few years of so, they’ve taken these things away so they can bring them back with a charge. It’s like McDonalds, they used to give you all the McNugget dipping sauce you wanted, but now you have to pay if you have more than two per order 🙁
Post # 14
I just wanted to say that I don’t know what Chivari chairs are NOR do I know what uplighting is. I don’t want to find out, in case I want it, too! Haha.
Post # 15
I think the things we’re giving up, nobody will miss and we’re not really cutting anything out enitrely, just replacing it with cheaper options. I’m giving up aisle decorations, a white aisle runner is included with the venue but I just didn’t think it was worth the $400+ dollars for some shepherds hooks with flowers down the aisle. We gave up big flower centerpieces, opted for candelabras with small floral arrangements. We were going to give up a limo and rent a van but we actually just won limo service for the entire day in an auction for crazy cheap, so the limo is back on 🙂 We’re going with chicken and pasta for the menu, I really wanted a beef option but not for an additional $10+ a person. We’re giving up chiavari chairs and we’re not doing any chair covers, just plain white chairs.
Post # 16
‘I created crystal trees with curvy willow for around $12 a table!’
I’ve often thought about doing this. I’ve seen so many ‘DIY’ that look as beautiful as what the professionals do. There isnt’ actually a difference. At the end of the day it’s the same materials and still look elegant.
I like the chair covers but I’ve also seen actual Chairs for hire that look pretty in itself and it’s cheaper.
Celing draping- I don’t think is nessercery. The buildings I’ve found to get married in have they’re own beauty and charm so draping would ruin it (plus the amount they charge 😮 ).
I don’t think thoes lights are nessacery. Candels are just as beautiful 🙂
Companies I think try to convince us, we need all these expensive things. But I don’t think it’s nessercery. You will make it special. Your marrying the one you love and wnat to spend the rest of your life with. A chair cover isn’t going to change this 🙂