Post # 1
My FMIL now all of a sudden 4.5 months away now has an opinion.
According to her my FI now needs a best man, he can’t wear a black tie, and now he can’t go to the hotel to meet his parents to pick up a stupid limo …
My head is going to explode!
Post # 3
I am sure she means well. *hugs*. Gently remind her that your decisions are final and that is how you and your FI envisioned your day. Just do the “uh huh” over the phone and keep it sweet but tactful
Post # 4
@CrystalBlackheart: I can definitely relate! FFIL has been the same way about a lot of little things. I think you may need to pick your battles. We didn’t want tuxes and he wanted tuxes, so we said we’d do them, but vetoed some other things he had pushed for.
You may have to make a few concessions to keep the peace, or sometimes a “We’ll definitely have to think about that, good suggestion” can go a long way. On the day of, she probably won’t be noticing things like the ties. Is she contributing financially to the wedding? I usually just say something about how we are trying to keep costs down and we’re willing to talk about it if they would like to contribute for it.