Post # 1
Hello fellow December 2011 brides 🙂 I’m one of you too! As of right now, the date has been narrowed down to either 12/10/11 or 12/17/11. And THAT is actually why I’m writing this post…
I know that you can’t base your wedding simply on what is most convenient for others, but I do want to be as accommodating as I can be without going overboard. I think that if my wedding is a reflection of me, I want to be reflected as thoughtful and considerate. Know what I mean Bees? It sure is a hard balance sometimes though! Thus, my dilemma is choosing between the two dates above, because I want people who are traveling from out-of-town for the wedding to be put out in the least amount possible, given that it’s the holidays.
Now, we most of our family will be coming in from out-of-town. I don’t know if it’s better to have the wedding on the 10th and let them go back home in plenty of time for the holidays, or to have it on the 17th and perhaps since they are already making the trip down, they could stay the rest of the week until Christmas? I know, that’s alot of people to put up for a week.
Mainly, I am just curious what you all are planning on doing with regards to out-of-town guests with a wedding at this time of year, and if there are any other previous December wedding bees reading this, what did you do to best accommodate your traveling guests??
Thanks Bees!! 🙂
Post # 3
hey! My problem is the same as yours, and compounded by the fact that 1/2 our guests will be coming to Australia from Canada. For some, this has been a great opportunity for a good holiday and they are coming early and staying on til after new years, but for some its made it impossible for them to come – they have holiday commitments in Canada and can’t make it back from Aus in time since our wedding is on the 17th. We went back and forth and back and forth (and back and forth again a few more times) on times of year and particular dates for the wedding……..my advice to you is that in the end you have to do what you and your fiance prefer. You will never please everyone!! I learned that the hard way. Take people’s travel and timing into consideration to a certain extent, but in the end decide for yourselves if you prefer the 10th or the 17th, and just go ahead with it. if people are unable to attend and hold it against you, then they are probably people you don’t want there in the first place. Real friends and family will be gracious and apologetic that they can’t come and won’t make you feel bad.
As for people staying, is there any possibility of large houses or estates that could be rented out near your venue? If everyone pitches in they are usually much cheaper than hotels and less strain on you and FI when you are preoccupied with other things! Or look up B & Bs in the area – also much cheaper than hotels for the most part.
Good luck! I hope you pick the 17th cause then we’ll be date twins!
Post # 4
@ScarletBegonia: Haha yay we ARE date twins!! We finally picked the date this past weekend, hooray!! 🙂