Post # 1
Okay, so my FMIL just hounded me last night. Not to go into too much detail, but I stopped by because she offered to take on a DIY project for me.
She pretty much went on, and on, and ON about how she thinks this wedding will be too extravagant. That it’s going to cost too much money, that we should have just run off.. she would have given us money. Grilling me about how much my parents were going to pay for, saying that we should really not invite children (except for the ones she wants there, of course). I seriously almost lost it.
I came home to FI, who immediately knew something was wrong.
He hugged me, and I cried, threw myself a big pity party: “No one wants this wedding but meeeee…..” type drama.
So, just thought I would share with you my first “bridal breakdown”. I really hope it doesn’t happen again.
And Lord, give me strength….
Post # 3
Oh man, I am so sorry! Maybe all brides-to-be should just walk around with a tattoo on their foreheads that reads, “I’m the one getting married, not you, so keep your opinions to yourself and STFU!!!” Too long?
But seriously, I don’t think people like this realize how much their comments can hurt or affect others. Just don’t let it get to you – on the actual day, she will be so happy for you, and it will make her forget all the other things that she did or didn’t want.
Post # 4
we are all allowed some bridal breakdowns during planning! i had a few myself. one in particular over seating arragements (really?!, of all things?)
Hang in there and plan the wedding of your dreams 🙂 you only do it once.
Post # 5
@babybumblebee: LMAO! Maybe just a tad too long? I know, I just have gotten so exasperated by the amount of people saying that we “should just run off” to hear her state it repeatedly and also by saying -“I understand you feel like this is what you ‘need’ to do”-I mean really??? wtf?? Has just been getting to me.
But thanks for listening to my bridezilla breakdown, and for your positive outlook, I really do appreciate it 🙂
@totheislnds: I know right? I never expected THIS is what would be the first to make it happen. I thought for sure the guest list was going to kill me.
Post # 6
@babybumblebee: shorten that to STFU.
@Mrs.tobe: Wubs you.
Post # 7
I love the title of this post. At Christmas my FMIL went on and on about what a gigantic waste weddings are. This segued into how no one should have kids in this terrible f’d up world. I just smiled and ate some more pie.
Post # 8
Can’t your fiance talk to her about this? I hate when my MIL badgers me about money, it’s incredibly rude.
Post # 9
@helenberrycrunch: I believe that would fit perfectly. Wubs you tooooooo!
@LGenz: Hee, hee, hee… I do love some pie 🙂
@KatyElle:He actually wanted to go over there as soon as my breakdown was over. But i told him not to. I said as much as I was going to, to her last night, and I am really just going to let it ride. If it happens again. Believe me, I won’t be half as nice.
Post # 10
Ohhh, and did I mention that she was also freaking out last night about what she should wear??(This has been on-going since I first went dress shopping)
Like “what is your mother wearing?”(she asked this a thousand times…I mean, uh, I don’t know since it’s ONLY FEBRUARY!)She feels like they need to “match”
She also in some twisted way thinks that the color she wears needs to “flow” with the wedding party.
I can’t tell you how may times I repeatedly told her that I didn’t care what she wore. Just wear what she felt good in and a color she liked. Jeez!
Post # 11
or can we have biiitm
because it is important to me
I am tired of people asking why
Post # 12
@unixfairy: That’s a good one too!
And it DOES matter, damn it!
I’m with you, no more explaining. It is what it is. So SHUT UP!
Post # 13
Its definitely a tough situation when your FMIL has totally different values or opinions about your wedding. My FMIL is very sweet and kind, but she comes from a totally different generation, place, culture and time. (Think very frugal, backyard bbq rehearsal dinner, etc). That’s the way her wedding was and how everyone in her family got married. So our wedding (even though its very small and pretty reasonable) seems overly extravagant to her at times.
The best way I can put it into perspective is how I view my teenage cousin. All of her obsessing over her high school prom made me roll my eyes. She obsessed about every little thing and I thought “man you won’t even care in a few years.” But to her it was really important. I tend to think our MILs probably look at it the same way. “All of this money and fuss for one day! They won’t even care about the flowers or invitations in a few years!”
I totally feel you about having a random breakdown. I have definitely had my share over my engagement (thank God we are getting married in just under 3 weeks!) Just make sure your fiance supports you, protects you from his mama when he should, and that you get enough rest! Even though my FMIL doesn’t understand our wedding, I’m confident that when she looks back at our wedding she’ll think it was beautiful nonetheless (and will secretly brag about to it to all her friends).
Post # 14
@Mrs.tobe: *HUGS YOU* I wubs you too, and yeah there are plenty of people who want this wedding! *me included*
Im glad you held it together though- way to be 😀 Im also impressed because I dont have NEAR that kind of patience with people…I may be sweet but I have a short temper sometimes!
😀 hope to talk to you laters!