- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So the big countdown for the big day is on! Its coming up pretty soon, and Im starting to get a little crazy about somethings. There are a few things we are not doing at the wedding/reception, and its strangley a big problem for some people a.k.a family.
My mom wants the grandparents to walk down the aisle before the wedding party and groom. I never considered this, and my FI’s grandma is pretty shy, so we dont think she is going to do it and told us she would rather not. I’ve never seen this done, but apparently people in my moms family usually do it. I would rather not, but I can see it being a problem.
After the wedding, we are doing quick family pictures, some with the wedding party, then I do want to do a lot with just my and my new husband. My Bm’s seem to feel that were are doing a HUGE photo session in lots of locations. My Fiance and I barely have and pictures together, so we want to concentrate on having lots. Again, I feel this is going to be an issue.
We were not planning on doing a big entrance to the reception. Again like above, a lot of my Fi’s family isnt into that stuff, so we want it to be just the bridal party and not some crazy song and dance.
We are NOT doing a bouquet toss or garter throw, my Fiance and I hate these. People are making me feel really weird about this, like if I dont do it…ITS NOT A REAL WEDDING.
My Fiance and I just want to do one dance slow, and not 2 or 3. So not one with the wedding party. To me they always look awkward, and we just want one. Everyone can go nuts on the dance floor after. Again, I have a strong feeling this one is going to be an issue.
We dont want the usual wedding music played at the dance (chicken dance, line dance, you know the ones..). So people are telling me “Oh well I’m going to request them anyways!” cause they know I dont like them. I would rather hear something other than “I’m to sexy or I knew the bride when she used to rock and roll”.
We are also not doing all of the “traditional speeches”. My parents are going to talk, his mom, us, and my bms want to make one (This I’m worried about, any chance to make fun of me, they do). Already I have had comments about this.
We are pretty laid back, but some of our family (well more mine) isnt. People keep telling us “its your day” but then get pissy when we tell them we are not doing some of this stuff! Like….seriously?? Am I being unreasonable?