- 5 years ago
Recently, I read on the Bee about Love Languages, and I decided to check it out. I asked my mom, and she is all about the Love Language book, and told me this:
“You can often find out someone’s love language by what they do for you. That’s what they value and want done for themselves.”
So I took the quiz for myself. Here are my results:
10 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
2 Receiving Gifts
2 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch
This makes TOTAL sense to me now. I am constantly complimenting J, telling him how sexy, handsome, gorgeous he is. How I love his new jeans/shirt/haircut etc. And he just blows it off like he doesn’t even hear me. He is not a complimenter. AT ALL. I never hear you’re beautiful, you did a good job, dinner tasted fantastic, etc. And I completely need to hear those “Words of Affirmation.” A lot. I’m not generally a compliment fisher, but for some reason I am with him. And now I understand why.
J however scored much higher than me on Acts of Service. This too makes sense how he complains occasionally that I never do anything for him. It’s because I get super uncomfortable when people do stuff for me. I’m a very do-it-myself kind of girl. He’ll come over occasionally and do my dishes or vaccum when I’m not there. I have always been kind of, annoyed, like “I can do that myself, I’m just busy!” But now I get that he’s showing me his love language.
Well, now that we’ve both taken the quiz, and talked about “I need this from you. This makes me feel special. Etc…” I feel like we’ve both been understanding a lot more about each other. I make sure to do more for him, even if it’s just surprising him with his favorite movie and a new wine to try. He makes sure to compliment me, tell me he likes my outfit, tell me my dinner is good, etc.
What are your love languages?
What are your SO’s love languages?
How do you show them to each other?
Were there any “oh duh!” moments when you figured out your/SO’s love languages like “THIS is why they do THAT!”