- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
This post is to vent and for advise. First I would like to say that I love my mother. She is a single mother of 2 who made sure we were taken care of. My problem is that I don’t know how else to tell her she needs to get her act together. She took care of my grandmother and my GM’s family to the point that she has no money to her name. I have a feeling she expects me to do the same for her. Don’t get me wrong, I do plan on taking care of her once she is old. But right now she has a job and no small children, how is it that she still struggling? My sister who is 22 still lives with her but is not working or going to school (that’s a lost case). However, I moved out 6 years ago and I’m the one they call because there is not enough money for groceries!? How is that possible? My grandmother had 2 heart attacks last year, and we decided to start saving in case of an emergency. This summer she was diagnosed with cancer and passed away a month ago. Turns out the only one that was saving money was me. So I had to take the money I had for the wedding and downsize everything (about 6k). I’m not broke or have any debts not even after making payments for the wedding. But I hate having no extra savings (at this point the savings are just going to pay vendors if there is an emergency I’m toast!). She sees that as a sign to ask for money since I don’t have loans or maxed out credit cards. It’s just me paying for the wedding (FI is taking care of the HM). I caved in and got her some groceries (she is my mom after all). But she lives with an adult (my sister) and has a job! I just feel angry and sad.