(Closed) Oh my husband is going to kill me

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Erm… if it was my FI, I would avoid the word “need” – that’s all I can think of. ๐Ÿ™‚  A friend of mine who worked in jewelry said there should “always be a plan for where the ring is going.” Have you guys talked about changing it before?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@atalante:  Good advice!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You dont need it. So unless he wanted to do it in the first place, or you’re paying for it yourself, I hope you dont do the tactless thing and insist on it.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

^^ wowzers don’t be shy lol!!

It’s sounds like you’ve never discussed it with him before ( cos your asking advice on how too) so I think maybe u should go in and casually drop it into conversation see how he feels about possibly, one day, changing your diamond. Then you can gage his general feelings to wards it, and if he’s non too happy, leave it there, or if he’s okay with it, maybe a few days later mention you saw a diamond etc,

I wouldn’t go in there with “your plan” because he might be a bit….put out.

Small steps ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Do you not like your current ring? 

 I can’t imagine having anything other than my E-ring I’m in love with it, I say do whatever makes you and your hubby happy but yeah I would leave out “I need” Lol

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@alyssa.christine1:  I still think her advice holds. 

Have you talked about upgrading before?

I think you should tread carefully because suggesting a bigger stone could hurt his feelings, especially if he put a lot of time and effort into picking your current stone and spent what he could afford on it.

By saying you want a new stone, he could take that to mean the current one isn’t “good enough” for you anymore.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@alyssa.christine1:  I would just drop a lot of hints for a 1st anniversary or birthday gift. Whichever comes first! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yeah…you don’t “need” it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@alyssa.christine1:  I just said FI because I was talking about my guy. I’d do the same when he becomes DH. ๐Ÿ™‚  

Since you’ve talked about it in terms of the future, I like the idea of making it part of the plan – an anniversary or a “OMG we’re preggers!” gift. You could ask him about the timing of it, when he thinks it’s best. Especially since the answer from the jeweler was that they could “probably” deduct some value from your current center stone. That’s not a guaruntee, and the value they give you will likely not meet appraisal.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If I ever told my DH I *needed* to pretty much double (I believe you said in previous posts your center is .8?) my center stone he’d respond with endless laughter.

Good luck! I have no advice for you, sorry.

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